We Hear You! Letters from Our February 2014 Issue

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by MORE • Editors

Hi Lesley

I just opened up my MORE that came in yesterday’s mail and read your letter from the editor which always resonates with me. I had to drop you a line to tell you how much I enjoy the magazine and always love your letter. So true what you wrote about each decade….I am approaching 49 this month and just came in from a day in the city looking at colleges with my son and your words just felt so much like I could have written them all myself.

Plus I wanted to tell you I love the pic….you look younger and more beautiful than ever!\

Thanks for a wonderful treat of a magazine!
--MaryAnne Richardson

Good day Lesley,

Thank you for still working in the magazine publishing business.  I remember you at Marie Claire and boy I miss you there. The magazine has change.  I once receive an email from you to participate in a story about dating in Washington, D.C., but was busy with work.

Then I get my first More magazine and yes, you are here. Not sure how long you been with More but I am so happy to be reading a magazine that you are the Editor once again.

I was so heart broken when you left.

I just finish reading the February issue with Courtney Cox. It has your great expertise on it.  I LOVE it. My favorite article was " the Ex Files".

I just want to say, Thank you once again putting stories together that are great, enjoyable, about women and for women.

Keep it up and I shall continue to read More magazine.
--Carla Waddell

The article, “Putting the Past to Rest in Ireland,” caught my attention as a must-read, especially since I too had a less than idyllic childhood and am always curious about how others have managed to survive and thrive.  Imagine my surprise at the opening sentence, “The two old men sitting across from us--one possibly in his sixties . . . “  I am in my 60s and sincerely hope that no one refers to me as an old woman!

On another note, I would appreciate more articles on how to make the most of the career (and life) you’ve got and fewer of the “reinvent yourself” type.  Quite a few of us are hanging on by our fingernails in a job that we may not love but don’t have the luxury of letting go to reinvent our self.

Finally, thank you, More, for making women over 40 believe that they have style and substance--I will always be a subscriber!

Sincerely,
--Vallie Ann Bennett

Good morning,

Why are you making an assumption that I am a woman? I am actually a male, who just liked your magazine because it had some thought behind it and because it was not shallow like many magazines for women. Also, I liked that it presented women as humans rather than as bodies who are covered with lipstick, makeup, and bikinis.

Please either update your database with a gender identifier, so your communication is more specific. Or, replace the word "woman" with a word "person" or "individual" to remove gender bias. We are in the 21st century already.

Have a good day,
--Nur

Dear Lesley,

I really enjoy your magazine, and particularly your letter from the editor. I have been a subscriber from the beginning.  I am 61, and may have aged a bit out of your demographic, which seems to be 40-60, but I am interested in health and fitness, style, aging and healthy living.

I wanted to respond to your inquiry on what to do about extraneous noise and clutter, but couldn’t find it on the website, so I’m using this email address.

I married for the first time at age 51 (sold everything and moved cross country - reinvention part 1), and had lived alone since I was 28.  Not having lived with anyone, I became used to a totally silent environment - only noise was actually listening to music, watching tv (rarely), listening to books on tape, no background noise, ever.  I am so lucky that my husband is the same way, because I think we are the only ones!

Whenever we visit people, they have the tv or music on, computers, cell phones ringing and dinging. I have become aware of how rare it is to be unwired!  We have computers, and each own a cell phone, but neither of us feel the need to be plugged in any more than that.  We do use our computers at home for many things, but feel no need to have access to them at all times.

My husband is a minimalist, and although I am not so much, whenever we bring something new into the house, something else goes out.  Our house is small, spacious and easy to clean.

I really enjoy articles about women over 60 looking and feeling great.  This is the best time in my life.

Sincerely,
--Patricia Tyser Carberry

I attempted to contact the magazine on the "contact us" page, but I couldn't get the link to work.

I just want to let you know how disappointed I've become with your magazine.  I subscribed to your magazine soon after I turned 40, I am now 46. It's the only women's magazine that I subscribe to.  Over the last several months  I have been more and more frustrated that there's ANY information for women in their 30's.  They have PLENTY of magazines that are catered to that age group.  More mag was supposed to be for the over 40 crowd--what happened?

I like to get hip fashion advice for my age, hair, make-up, product info for women of my age.  I would also like to request less air brushing with your models.  I'm looking at Courtney Cox now all soft looking.  We want to see real people--yeah, maybe people who look good for their age. It doesn't have to be a celebrity on your cover.  If they've had work done or use fillers, botox, whatever, be honest about it and tell us.  Maybe we'll try those products too or not.

I'm experiencing the shifting hormones of peri-menopause--my body's changing.  I don't want to see your magazine go for the under 40 crowd.  There are plenty of women over 40 who could benefit from your original magazine objectives.

Please get it back together for us!!
--Gina

Dear Ms. Seymour:

I've enjoyed your magazine ever since it came out. I'm not interested in fashion but in the lives and thoughts intelligent women, and I've often enjoyed your book reviews, etc. However, I must add that I am 70, still teaching at a university, and offended that your magazine seems to stop at women who are in their seventies. Surely you must be aware of active, healthy, and intelligent women who are still at work way beyond their sixties. I remember the cover article of a Newsday Sunday magazine several years ago which featured the faces of many, many people still active and working who were one hundred years or over. With a bit of luck we will be seeing more and more of that. Please consider the older women whom you seem to be excluding--and count us in.

Thank you.
--Barbara Bengels

Hi Lesley!  Love you, what you have to say in your Letter from the Editor but wish your magazine would not be so politically left wing - maybe a story on how Katie Coric was not a fair journalist to Sarah Palin - What??  The media darling...Sarah brought down the 'old boys network in Alaska' - something to be applauded for by strong women but no one talks about that.  Your magazine is getting thinner, less advertisers, less articles, maybe that's why!  I know I used to subscribe but really am tired about the lines that not only the media draws but magazines as well.  We are educated women, treat us as such -tired of the left garbage
--Kelly

Is more becoming less and less germane to its original audience?  It would seem so - the target audience seems to be shifting: what happened to the focus goal of this magazine: to be aimed at the "more seasoned" intelligent woman still interested in beauty, fashion, travel, sports, life, perhaps with more money to spend, more life behind her - and with no intention of fading away?  Madame Lear, remember?

For the last number of issues the ages mentioned on the covers begin with the 30s - end in the 50's or 60's - are you trying now to be generic like LHJ or GH or?  Nothing at all wrong with those and many fashion magazines, I subscribe to them also, but there are so many that have target audiences in those age ranges and a zillion, as we all know, for 40 and under, what about the sophisticated woman over 50?  Baby Boomers haven't died off yet, don't lose more than you need to.

Thank you,
--Barbara Barrett

Dear More:

I am a 58-year-old woman who follows your emails blogs etc because all the other magazines have passed me by. Despite the fact I have disposable income, time, a great marriage, great job - in my spare time I garden, cook, and bellydance -  yet no other fashion magazine caters to women over 50 - and there are a lot of us (see demographics for Baby Boomers).

That is why it is so aggravating to go on line and see your makeover of a 36-year-old nonprofit executive!! She could be in Vogue, Bazaar, Marie Claire, Allure, and a dozen other magazines.

I am a 58-year-old nonprofit executive -- where's my makeover -- or the makeover of someone more my age.

If you want to keep me as a customer -- and I assure you, you should, PELASE stay age appropriate. Your original mission - I believe - was to the woman who is left out of the fashion magazines. At least draw the line at 40!

Yours,
--Joann

I am reading the Feb 14 issue.  

I am on page 22 reading network your way to reinvention. I am 55 years old and wear contacts. However, the type on this story is just too small.

I like your magazine, but I don't want to struggle to read articles.

Please quit using such small type.

Thanks for reading.
--Cindy

As always, great! However, I do find it frustrating when the reinvention stops at 60. Let me tell you why.

Less than two months before my 69th birthday, I published my first book. That was a year and a half ago. I now have three novels published and a novella. The three novels have all been bestsellers on Amazon and my first one, Blue Coyote Motel, was a quarter finalist in the Amazon's Breakthrough Novel Award contest as well as the Book of the Month for e-thrillers and the Goodreads group, Psychological Thrillers.

Re-invention - yes, I know a thing or two about it. I owned a national art and antique appraisal company with over 140 experts in various fields, traveling to all parts of the United States. The IRS, judges, insurance companies, and individuals were all clients of mine. I became disenchanted with how many people defined themselves by their "stuff" and opened two yoga studios, leaving the world of antiques and art. I taught in Southern California as well as internationally - Indonesia, Mexico, and Nepal, to name a few. My husband became interested in politics and eventually became a California State Senator. I knew his opponents would love to see my picture on a campaign "hit piece" standing on my head. I left the yoga world and became a political wife, entertaining Governors, Congressmen and politicians and lobbyists of all persuasions for the twelve years my husband was in the California Legislature. Towards the end of my husband's political career, I wrote my first book and now here I am, at age 70, immersed in my fifth book with two others ready to go and one in the planning phase.

Re-invention - It's possible at any age and certainly well beyond 60!
--Dianne Harman

Hi Lesley.

I paid close attention to your"Letter from the editor" and I must say I was disappointed to see that you stopped at 60 at reinventing one's life.  Let me tell you something: I am 75 and very eager to give back, mainly my life experience, accompanied by my two Masters' degrees: Education and Psychology. And you know what? nobody's listening.

In spite of my age, I am very active, healthy and willing to serve.  About 1 and a half years ago I moved to Asheville, NC from Homestead, FL because to keep myself and the properties my late husband and I had acquired, I had to work 7 days a week.  I decided to move where I am now, because one of my daughters (I have three girls and one boy) lives in Asheville and she told me that life is cheaper here. I rented the two properties and that allows me to go on.  Now, this is not a pity party.  I am now working as a substitute for Buncombe county High Schools.  My ideal job was to teach at any college or University in this area, as I did in Miami Dade College.  I sent a lot of applications and not even a response came back.  Since my background includes 10 years experience in the Batterers Intervention Program, I sent letters to all the corporations in this area offering my services and experience and I had the same results.  Not even a letter acknowledging my letters.

Reading your letter, I came to the conclusion that most people think like you: that after 60, we should just retire and put away our dreams and our experience.  I can assure you, that it is wrong.  I am so full of those to give back and I believe they are wasted away because nobody listens.

I'm not giving up.

God bless you.
--Anonymous

Dear Ms. Seymour,

I had to laugh when I read the first paragraph of Nell Casey's article "Putting The Past To Rest In Ireland." which appeared in the February 2014 issue of your magazine. The first sentence on pg. 90 reads "The TWO OLD MEN sitting across from us-ONE PROBABLY IN HIS SIXTIES, the other maybe in his late eighties, elbows lightly touching, suggesting the humble tenderness of father and son-ought to have their pictures taken."  Further on the paragraph reads as follows, "These two FRAIL MEN make a moving portrait of the inescapability of family." I realize that Ms. Casey was attempting to create an endearing scene of father and son sharing quality time, however; she did not do that for me. Instead she created a scene of two tired, sick and weak men. Somewhat depressing, don't you think?

In the article Ms. Casey states that she is 42. Oh my gosh, in about 20 years she and her son may be sitting in rocking chairs on her front porch. lol  My point here is that if you have readers 50+ do you think that there is a possibility that such references alienate them? I am only 54 and it alienated me! Also of note are many of the well-written, informative articles that often, but not always, are addressed to women under the age of 70. I did read an article in your magazine last year that specifically interviewed women 70+ and it was very interesting. However, MORE tends to more frequently run articles that are entitled something akin to "Reinvent you life at 30, 40, 50, 60." I have a 70-year-old sister, who looks 55, and I sometimes pass my copies of MORE along to her. I wonder if these titles make her feel excluded. I would never ask because I don't want to offend her. When my mother was 88 she went out and bought a new treadmill. I just don't understand. Isn't MORE a magazine that was founded on the premise that other magazines were too youth oriented? In closing, I AM NOT COMPLAINING. Just wanted to give you some feedback. Additionally, I think that many of the advertisements in MORE magazine would appeal to women in their 70s+ (this demographic has a huge amount of expendable cash). Keep up the good work but, please, be a little more sensitive to women 70+. Thank you. Regards,
Ms. Leslie Gantner

Loved your editorial piece more than ever before...it could have been written by me except I’m now celebrating my early 70’s and yes, having the time to join & help organizations that help others, reading my favorite books, and living life with an enjoyment not known when everyone is too busy and raising a family is truly a blessing.  Save for retirement you young folks!  It’s a wonderful time to really enjoy every day at its fullest and do what you’ve always wanted to do with your free time.  
--Ruth Muncy

Had a difficult time finding the link to the Survey for February, 2014, so am hoping this is the correct communication method.

I’ve been a subscriber to MORE for many years – was thrilled when the magazine first came out that it represented the lifestyle of a “mature” audience.  However, now approaching 65 in a few months, I’m somewhat frustrated that the magazine seems to get younger and younger as each issue goes forward (maybe, it just me getting older). There are enough magazines out there for those in their 30’s and early 40’s.  I would like to see more representation of women in their late 50’s-60’s-70’s (and even those in their 80’s) – perhaps, another version of MORE would now be appropriate (what about a “MORE PLUS” for those of us in the later age group?).   Additionally, the pages that I lovingly refer to as the “centerfolds” seem to concentrate on fashion/style that most likely is not representative of most audience members – I think there are very few that would spend thousands of dollars on a fashion or accessory. Yes, once in a great while you do have an issue that shows affordable items – but, that issue (or issues) are far between each other.

Last but not least, I was amazed at the article in the February, 2014 issue by Nell Casey on Ireland. Amazed in the sense that in her very first sentence she spoke about “the two old men sitting across from us…” And, then went on to describe those men as being 60 and 80.  She further went on to describe them as being “frail”.  Approaching 65, I do NOT feel old nor do I feel frail and I have close friends in their early 80’s (or approaching that decade) and I do not look on them as “old” or frail. If she merely would have described the father and son as being the two “gents” or “seasoned gents” I think the reading audience would have gathered these were not two youngsters. I’m even more surprised that an editor of a magazine for “women of…substance” would allow such a description!  Shame on you MORE!!  I think her point of the connection between family members could have been made with a more careful choice of words.

Despite the above…I’m still considering renewing when my subscription ends later in the year!
--Anonymous

I am a member of More and have subscribed for years.  I only want to make a comment regarding your changes in the magazine.

I subscribed because it was for ladies "over 40" but now find it is leaning more and more toward the younger generations.  There are many magazines for the newer arrivals.  Why can you not keep it relevant to older women who still want to look & feel young?  Thank you.
--Anonymous

Who is running your magazine? This is the biggest left leaning mag. It should be placed right next to Time. Your articles are so strongly left leaning it is void of intellect. The tone of your magazine is also a slap in the face to strong women. You open the cover of the latest issue and even your advertisers adopt the same message 'We FOCUS on WRINKLES'. You send a message to your readers that their self worth is in the lack

of lines on their faces. Your clothing selections by age are insane. Colorful flowers for 30, solid color for 40, black and white  50, and taupe and pale pink for 60? I'd give your magazine an F for interesting articles, an F for understanding women, and BTW your editor does have it correct in 'Getting Rid of what Doesn't Matter' and for me it is this magazine. Copy to Lesley.  As soon as my subscription runs out in April, I will not be renewing.
--Anonymous

Hi Lesley,

I am a long-time subscriber to MORE and I appreciate a magazine that speaks to women over 40. However, I was disappointed with February cover and the lack of recognition of Black History Month.  I expected to see/read at least one article about an influential African American woman. Please consider in the future. 

Blessings,
--Tanya

First Published Thu, 2014-02-13 17:55

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