We Hear You! Letters from Our March 2014 Issue

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by MORE • Editors
March 2014 Cover

The March issue was my favorite, by far.  I loved the Letter from the Editor about getting rid of what doesn't matter.  Last year I spent two weeks in Paris for my 45th birthday.  I fell in love with the way French women live.  Their closets aren't cluttered, they don't over-accessorize and they always look exquisite.  When I came home, I donated so many items of clothing (even the faded, much loved Pucci scarf I purchased with my first 'real' paycheck twenty-five years ago.

Downsizing my closet has led to easier dressing in the morning, and to my desire to continue downsizing in other areas of my life.

Two years ago, I went out on disability for three weeks over the summer when I suffered a stress-related MS attack.  The time home gave me time to relax from my stressful, six-figure a year hospice job.  Being home each day allowed me to spend each afternoon sitting on a bench in the gorgeous park across the street from my home.  I soon realized I had no desire to return to the stress and ten-hour days of my job.   I resigned and now work as a consultant, which leaves me plenty of time to enjoy gorgeous days in the park with a good book. I took a huge paycut, but it has all been worthwhile.

Thank you, More, for an exceptionally wonderful issue.

--Dana Vigilante

Good Evening,

I just finished the article in your March issue "Would you risk your life for your beliefs"  Thank you so much for printing that article.  I have really grown to love your magazine and that article touched me very deeply.  The anti abortion movement came to my home town, Milwaukee, with a vengeance in 1992.  I immediately became involved by becoming a clinic escort... for most of 12 years I went to the clinics every Saturday morning to give protection and reassurance to the women as they walked through through the throngs of screaming, accusing (mostly) men.  That work was so real and fulfilling.  I'm a tall, large woman and I am proud to have held hundreds of women, speaking to them with love and compassion while the protesters tried to block them, guilt them, accuse them... not even knowing what services the woman was seeking or her story.

For most of the last 30 of my 50 years I have thought that my calling was to do exactly what Julie Burkhart has done... but... never really pursued it.  I was afraid, not of the protesters and the violence, but of how much it would scare my family...  Julie's story has reignited this passion inside of me... who knows where I might go with it. Thank you so much for sharing her story with us... She is a true, brave American heroine.

Warmest regards,

--Natasha Mansur-Ruf

I appreciated the article "The Woman Who Won't Back Down" about the courage of Julie Burkhart.  She is carrying on the much needed work of Dr. George Tiller who was brutally murdered.  True articles like this are one of the reasons I love More. 

--Marjorie Hass

First off ... I have to say I absolutely love this magazine.  With everything made available on the internet ... I found myself NOT purchasing magazines ... This was the best BACK TO MAGAZINE purchase I ever made ...

It brings me back to a much simpler life ... not behind a screen ... hands on, bookmark and hightlights ... :)  Thank you.

Now .. I do have a question ... the article portraying Anna Gunn ... LOVED IT.  I also LOVE the pink top she is wearing ... any way you can disclose where I can purchase one of the same?  

Thank you for you time.   Keep up the good work/articles.   I now have my 20 year old reading it :)

--Deb Sachsenmaier

Dear Lesley,

I just read your "letter from the editor"

WOW!! This is my life.    I turned 50 Sept 28,2013 and gosh things have changed.   All for good (c'est Bon) my new phrase.    Anyway, 2 weeks ago we had an estate sale and sold practically our whole house.   We are downsizing from 4300 sq ft down to 2300 sq ft.   I know people do this all the time, but it was a drastic change for me.   My mother and grandmother were all collectors/nice hoarders.   So I just sold it all and am taking steps(baby) to stop that cycle and dig deep to why I shopped so much.   What needs were not being met in my personal life to make shopping(for good deals, Goodwill,Resale shops) so exhilarating.   This is the abbreviated version of all the changes in my life and making it simpler.  I thought it was coincidental that you were saying the same thing.   By the way I really enjoy your magazine.  I am a hairdresser for 29 years and give tips from it all the time.

Thanks!

Peace,

--Nikki Maranell

Dear More,

Thank you for the piece on How to Command a Room.  I read every word of it.  I'm a small 55 year old professional woman working in a male dominated industry.  To make it worse, the average age in my company is 30.  I learned several great tips and intend to apply them immediately.

Keep 'em coming,

--Nancy Dandridge

Lesley,

Thank you for your editorial.  I just finished reading it, and I had a "lightbulb" moment that I wanted to share with you.  

First, I want to give you a little background on my story.

In January 2009, I found out the brand new house I bought in 2006 was built with toxic Chinese Drywall.  Things were happening in the house, to my dog and to me that could not be explained.   

Once I found out that Chinese Drywall emits 3 nerve gases; hydrogen sulfide, carbon disulfide, carbonyl sulfide, and a metal, strontium, I realized why the house has so many problems, and my dog and I were dying from the toxins.  I had to make a choice, stay with my stuff or leave it.  I got my dog and left. 

It has been emotionally, physically, and financially devastating.  I will not go into all 5 years of trials and tribulations.  In a short summary, I  was "forced" into bankruptcy and foreclosure by the condo association.  I depleted my savings in 8 months by "doing what was right", paying the mortgage, condo fees, expenses, insurance, taxes, and rent, etc.  I could no longer afford to finance two houses, a toxic one and a healthy one.  I went from sleeping on a made-to-order king size bed with Horchow bedding to sleeping on an air mattress.  My porch furniture (from outside of the house) became my living room furniture. 

Humbling to say the least, but I was alive!

I lost the equity in my home, all my savings, my personal belonging and furnishings, of which I worked hard for 40 years to accumulate.  To this day, I am still battling a condo association that wants me to pay $433 a month condo fees and assessments on a house that I cannot live in, sell or rent (Virginia State Law says if deed remains in your name after foreclosure, the homeowner is still responsible). 

The debacle continues on a daily basis. My American dream became a Chinese nightmare.  My house turned into a gas chamber and now remains a torture chamber. 

The reason I am writing is to thank you for helping me let go of the beautiful clothes, shoes, furnishings, collection of cookbooks, etc, that I had to leave behind.  There are times I "mourn" some specific items; momentos, collection of cookbooks from my travels, a sewing box I received at the age of 18 when I left home for Nursing School, my deceased Dad's wallet, etc.  Having to start over again at the age of 59 and now at 64, life has become much simpler, and its okay!  My gratitude to God is "off the charts"!  He continues to heal me physically and has strengthened me emotionally and spiritually.  I continue to pray for financial restoration.   I am living paycheck to paycheck, something I haven't done in decades.

Thank you...and may God bless you for sharing your heart on giving yourself permission to really let "things" go, and sometime those "things" are a life that you left behind..

Thank you for reading my story.

--Michelle Germano

I read with interest your Letter from the Editor in the March 2014 MORE.

In October I cleaned out my closet and sent 14 Glad Flex bags to Goodwill.  One bag was shoes, one bag was coat hangers and the other 12 bags were clothes:

·         I cannot get into

·         I’ll never be that size again

·         OMG what was I thinking!

·         I must keep this because_____ gave it to me

·         I must keep this because_____ I wore it to__________

A very liberating feeling and because at 66 I don’t want my children to have to make decisions someday.

Now for the cookbooks.

Regards,

--Carolyn

Getting rid of what doesn't MATTER! letter...

I don't know what middle age is anymore, think I have finally arrive on the other side of it, where ever that is... I just know what started out getting a little butt, then becoming a weighted shelf that some how made my thighs slap each other, only to have my tone stomach turn to jelly and laugh saying to the thighs and butt..." I got this"...

When I was in the corporate world, there was just a way one needs to look. I loved that look. Moving back to California 14 years ago, my dress has become more lay back as they say, I can make this look good, but I always get the commit, you are so dressed up. I don't think I will ever be getting back to that look that was in my closet, ( a few years ago I had to let go of that stuff ONLY TOO COLLECT IT AGAIN)  and recently looking back at pictures I was so thin and being 6 foot I could wear anything and I had lot of stuff. I just looked unhealthy... so much so I can barely look back only I can't look forward either. Several months ago my world came crashing in leaving me feeling stuck inside and out. What has keep me going is my inside smile, but it is drowning in my tears. To the point where I had to visit my doctor, while sitting there I see...MORE... What to wear at 30,40,50,60.... I couldn't believe it. I was holding it in my hands as my sweetie and I are driving off. It has been sitting here a few days, it's Sunday. I grab a cup of coffee, pick it up ( now I have given it a quick glance a few times but not read it) ... just sayin... Page 9 caught my eye... no joke, I looked like that at 50 except taller. Now 60 (this year) I look like Mrs. Claus's sister.  As I am trying to re-establish my self at 60, I started to dig in to the closet (didn't know it also include the closet of my heart.) It is so hard, having such a heavy heart and then purging my (clothes) closet and LOL and my sewing room... I was having a hard time letting things go. So sitting here Reading your words  ..."YOU KNOW DEEP IN YOUR HEART THAT WAS ANOTHER PLACE, ANOTHER TIME, ANOTHER YOU. echoes.... in fact so loud my soul heard it. This time it was tears of release.  The thought of releasing became freedom; your words spoke not only to matters of my clothing, and sewing LOL, but to my heart aches in one way or another.    Thank you.     

My Pen Serves HIM,

--JD Daley

Hi Lesley,

I'm at the kitchen table eating breakfast and I flip open the magazine on the table.  I'm only a few pages into a magazine I've never heard of and I saw your picture and the title "Getting Rid of...".  Quite frankly, your picture caught my eye, then the title of the article.  The last paragraphs asks' for input, here I go. Only an hour ago, I just left the house to walk the dog and the Vietnam Veteran's truck stopped at my house to pick up my donations that I left on the porch.  It hit close to home when I read the part in the article about the dress in the closet. Just last weekend, I went through my closet and pulled out items that also brought back memories.   I had so many duplicate sweaters and shirts that I donated.  Some were gifts and even a few of them were from my deceased father.  But I felt good about donating them.  As an aside, for some crazy reason or future Halloween costume, I am saving the snake skin cowboy boots from the 90's(?). As I've gotten further into "middle age", I have also switched from watching Fox News in the morning to a more upbeat GMA.  I have become so much more sensitive to seeing the men and women in our armed forces come back from combat with devastating injuries and missing limbs. I think of Lt. Dan in Forest Gump, in the hospital scene where he confronts Forest for saving his life.

I am a self employed 54 year old married father of 5 kids aging from 11-21. I am also trying to get rid of extraneous "clutter".  But my clutter is stress.  My joke nowadays to everyone that knows me, is that I call myself a GIVER.  Instead of the stress of complaining, waiting, pushing and hoping, I've gotten to the point where I do more by myself for other people.  I am just recently accepting the fact that I will always be hand to mouth, but that's the way I always have been.  I joke with my kids that in are college, that all the trips to Disney and other neat places were bought from their college fund.

I have realized that 54 is the transition time of "middle age".  This is the age where many of our friends and family, including myself are experiencing the loss of loved ones.  Less "clutter" gives me time to reflect on what is really important to me, health and family.  I sometimes feel like the Grim Reaper of friends when I explain to my friends my declining interest in sports.  Whether it's the Super Bowl or high school, less sports is less clutter.  That being said, it's a tough position to have these days in a society where sports seem to more important than academics. 

Even though I'm trying to get rid of my "clutter", I will keep the noise.  Whether it's the doorbell, dishwasher, television, arguing, dog barking or two different ipods, it's what  keeps me focused on my family.

In your article you mentioned the old perfume. While cleaning out the "girls" bathroom,  I (GIVER), found a bottle of Chanel No.5 that I had given to my wife years ago.  I was surprised to find out that my 21 year old daughter was wearing my favorite perfume that I had bought for my wife, "another place, another time, another me".

Finally, as much as I could use the ten grand, I'm not going to take your on line survey.  I have already re-read this email a bunch of times to check my grammar and spelling. Usually a couple of paragraphs of anything puts me to sleep.  That's because I only read when it's quiet.  When it's quiet around here, that's the best time for a nap! But if you want an opinion and/or a compliment  you look nice in the black dress.  No complaints, it just adds to the clutter.  Lastly, please accept my regards for the loss of Susan Toeper.  My own heart attack four years ago on January 2,2010 maybe prompted me to write this email.

--Mark Fenter

Hi Lesley,

Just read your March Letter, "Getting rid of what doesn't matter". It

really hit home as just last evening I had the conversation about aging and our bodies with a close friend of mine.  I arrived at her home with a plastic bag containing a very cute black and white slinky dress that I wore last year to a beach wedding. My husband was with me when I purchased the dress and although I felt the dress was much too young for me (I was 62 at the time), the store clerk (this was a Guess store) told me I looked amazing in it and that "age" was not a reason to not buy a particular dress.  I do love the dress but even when I bought it, I felt it was a bit "over the top" for me.  And I still felt that way when I delivered it to my friend last night to give to her grandaughter.  I felt so  much better when we (the dress and I) departed.  I think I kept the dress only to tell myself that I could get away with wearing it.  Now I have faced the fact that I feel  more comfortable wearing something more "age appropriate" and am proud of that along with feeling more comfortable with my aging body.  It sort of all comes together at this age and you look at yourself and say, "It's okay, this is where I am".

Thanks for the column.

--Joan W.

Hi Lesley,

Your editorial letter in this month's issue struck a cord with me.  The last three years of our life have been an exercise in change and downsizing.  I "demoted" myself from being the National Sales Manager of a manufacturing company in Chicago to being a Sales Rep working from my home.  I have a Vonage modem for my phone line and I'm virtual. Wherever I plug in, my customers can find me.

We have downsized from 3 homes, (and a fourth rental residence in the french Quarter of New Orleans where my husband was working), to one small house 6 miles from Lake Superior in The Upper Peninsula of Michigan. We live in a county with no stop lights.  My husband has retired early, as job stress was literally killing him.  We have gone from business dinners in the French Quarter of New Orleans to home cooked, healthy meals my husband is learning to prepare with vegetables from our own garden, fish from the lake and local wild game.  No more hurried lunches sitting at a desk, now we take time once a week to ride our snowmobiles 20 miles to eat at a favorite restaurant overlooking a beautiful lake. 

I have sold or given away 3/4 of my wardrobe, I have no where to wear those things, and frankly, not much desire to go back to those places where they are needed.  My style and priorities have changed greatly.  Now I spend my money on things like a great tech coat for hiking!

We still go to Hilton Head, SC where we HAD a house, but we stay for a month with friends and family and enjoy their hospitality. I take along one or two great outfits for those occasions when they are needed.

We were also news junkies, eating dinner in front of the Chicago Nightly News, watching gang killings and political corruption run rampant.  Now we tune into the local UP News where they often lead with a car accident.

I teach free Yoga classes twice a week in the winter, giving back to my comunity.  I LOVE my Senior Chair Class!

I no longer go to a crowded gym.  I split and stack wood, shovel my back deck & roof and hike miles in the Porcupine Mountains with our dogs in the summer and fall.

I still struggle with letting go of things.  I grew up with very little, so the trappings of success were very important to me. Paring down from 3 homes and 30 years of possesions is challenging, but I am a work in process.

We have made a major life shift - lots less "stuff", lots more time for one another and the thing we love to do.

Namaste - "The light with in me honors the light that is within you"

--PJ McCaughn

To get rid of clutter in my life, I'll clean closets, drawers or other "nests," as I refer to them! I also drink my coffee, watch a half hour of local news, read Scriptures and listen to Christian contemporary music and catch an episode of "Seinfeld" to start off my day with a laugh! On Saturdays, I always do a weightlifting class in the morning, and Sunday morning church. Works great for me!!

--Molly McCarty

Good Afternoon Ms. Seymour,

I very much enjoyed your Letter from the Editor on eliminating clutter.

I would love to speak with someone about my de-cluttering journey.  I’m not a writer but I do think I’ve traveled an interesting path towards a cathartic freedom, a natural resilience, and now I’m extremely healthy to have all these “baggages” – emotional, physical or otherwise, liberated from my life.

Over the past few years, but mainly over the past year, I’ve totally de-cluttered my life:

a)      I broke up with an emotionally draining, sissy boyfriend (in 2010)

b)      Lost 30 lbs (in 2011)

c)      I changed profession as an Architect for the past 30 years to being a Director of Supply Chain with a major hotel company (2011)

d)      Took all of my old Kodachrome slides (1000+) from my summer of 1984 in Denmark as a student and transferred them to a CD and saved it into my computer (2013).

e)      Moved from a 4 bedroom/3 bath house with a pool, backyard and garage (I lived there alone too!) and moved in with my boyfriend into to a 1 bedroom condo (on the beach) with three linear feet of closet space (2013)

f)       Took all of my dog’s kennels, toys and bedding and donated them to the animal shelter (2013).  They now sleep in a small bed and have 3 toys total.

g)      Re-purposed my grandmother’s 60-year old fur coat.  She was a furrier in Canada and I couldn’t part with getting rid of a family heirloom, so I re-made it into a coat for myself (2013).  I live in Fort Lauderdale, so it won’t get much use anyways.

I suppose I went through all of the Five Stages of Grief:

1)      Denial:  that I had so much stuff (physical and emotional) and needed to get rid of it

2)      Anger:  that I’d been dragging around stuff that was from my marriage 23 years ago (and I’d been divorced for 13 years)

3)      Bargaining:  as I went through my 27 linear feet of closet that I kept so many clothes and shoes and had to go through 3 different phases of closet culling

4)      Depression:  that, if I want to be honest with myself, the mini-skirts were no longer age-appropriate and looked better on my 20 year old god-daughter

5)      Acceptance:  the moment when I breathed a sigh of relief that I wasn’t carrying around all these emotions and baggage from a life of stuff that saw plenty of living.

I think the most empowering moment was when I got rid of 99% of my possessions - when I sold my house in March 2013.  Over the course of one month the events went as follows:

Week 1:  I took what I wanted from my house and brought them to my office to make my office seem more homey:  some picture, lamps and nick-naks.  I also took a few things over to my parents 2 bedroom condo that they wanted.  Now their place is a little cluttered!

Week 2:  my mother came over and packed up everything that my brother might need.  He had recently moved into a big home in Atlanta and needed a lot of furniture – not to mention his mattress was 20 years old and mine was only 5 years old.

Weekend 2:  on a Saturday, I invited all my friends to come over and take what they wanted.  No questions asked.  First come ~ first serve yourself!  I told them to come with an empty car and their own boxes.  I even invited my former-husband and his girlfriend to come and get the crystal that we had received 22 years prior at our wedding.

Week 3:  I went through the house again to bring all of my clothes and shoes to GoodWill.  My boyfriend was buying me a new wardrobe, so it felt good to bring it all to a charity that would benefit from it.

Weekend 3:  for a second Saturday, my friends that couldn’t make the previous Saturday give-a-way came over.

Week 4:  for the furniture that no one wanted, I contacted a furniture liquidator that I’ve used previously and they gave me a few dollars for the balance of furniture.

Week 4.5:  Called Faith Farm charity to come and get the balance of whatever was left in the house.

In July 2013, I celebrated my 50th birthday in Paris with a cigar in the Jardin des Tuileries and dinner with my boyfriend Gerard and Chef Guy Savoy!        

My journey for clutter reduction is still on-going:

1.       I’m working on scanning 40 years of photos into the computer

2.      every time I buy a new clothing item or pair of shoes – I have to remove a like kind item from my tiny closet

3.      15 lbs crept back on so I’m trying to lose it again

Kindest Regards,

--Sharon A. Zamojski

Comments on Clutter

Clutter, well, I have more clutter in my house than in my brain.  (We will get to my brain later).  But as of lately,  I have been cleaning out closets (moths placed it at HIGH priority status) and I discovered something.  Moths like to hang out where nothing is happening. So,  I developed a clothing closet cleaning system — I methodically developed “go to” boxes --- as I went through my closet, I assigned my belongings to the proper box:   Keep it, Goodwill, consignment shop, larger friend, smaller friend, garbage.   It worked very well.  And I found the moth.  He was very fat.

Brain clutter is another nothing is happening type situation.  All is takes to get rid of brain clutter is to pay attention to your thoughts. Pay attention what you feed into and allow into your brain.  Back off and watch yourself, watch what your get fixated on; watch your thoughts.  You will soon recognize damaging thoughts as soon as you start letting them in. You can then adjust your thoughts, keep them more nurturing and positive, and avoid having your brain turn out like my closet.

And one comment on the March issue….. Why on God’s green earth did the photographer put Anna Gunn, beautiful, smart, intriguing Anna Gunn, standing on her sofa???  I stand on my sofa when I have to hang a picture on the wall behind it, or when I have to kill a bug.  There is no other proper or good time to stand on a sofa.  There just isn’t.

--Rebecca Laney-Meers

"What are you doing to get rid of extraneous noise and clutter in your life?"

 

What a coincidence that you would write about what we don't need any more in our possession. I am 61 years old, have lived in my home for over 20 years, and recently went through photos that were nestled in between picture frames, in boxes, age-spent albums - you get the picture (no pun intended).

Since I do not have any children, last month I decided to mail photos to my mom and two sisters, then a few for my aunt an uncle.  I wrote, "Thought you might like a walk down memory lane."  Their children are in their 20's now, and my aunt and uncle in their 80's.  While I was sifting through the photos, I was able to throw away more than half of them.  Who am I going to show them to?  Surprisingly, not everyone was as eager to receive them, and in fact they thought something wrong with me.  I've never felt better getting rid of photos!

What was my priority?  My mom, and cats in my life that have brought me much love throughout the years.

 

I know this is long, but I could have made it longer by detailing the photos.  

 



Sincerely,

 

 



--Irene Kay

Dear Lesley,

First, let me tell you that I LOVE your magazine.  There are not many magazines that I can pick up and know that some of the articles will apply to me.  

I am a 71 year old lady and I think I am holding my own pretty well.  I lost my beloved husband of 49 years (the only boyfriend I have ever had) four years ago...and I wanted to go with him...but I'm still alive and well.

When I received my magazine in the mail yesterday I read the ad about the upcoming contest.  I wanted to enter!  Guess what?  I cannot because I am not on Facebook, I could not upload a picture to save my life and I do not have a PayPal acct.  Do you really think this is fair?  Especially since my bill to renew my subscription came with my magazine and your company is more than happy to accept my check for renewal.

Lesley, please reconsider or just let those of us enter by mail who cannot otherwise if we make the effort to contact you, OK?

Thanks for your time.

Sincerely,

--Dixie Smull

Hello!  I've been a subscriber for more than a year and a reader for longer than that but I've yet to see "me" in your pages.  Who am "I"?  I am a blue collar worker who will be transitioning to, hopefully, a white collar job within the next five years.  I am a woman in the United States Air Force who will be retiring, after 20 years of service, in 2016.  I am one person in a "population" in which only 15% is female.  I am one person in a "population" in which only 17%, both male and female, complete enough years to retire at all.  I will retire 25 days before turning 40.

I would love to see a story about "me" and my retir(ing/ed) sister service members (of all branches) in your magazine.  We are truly a rare and overlooked demographic.

--Nichole Naprstek

I was thrilled when I opened my March issue of MORE today and the first face I saw had wrinkles!  (AXA ad) Thank you.  I have subscribed to your magazine for several years and thoroughly enjoy it.  MORE is one of the few publications, with articles for women over 30.  My only complaint has been the lack of wrinkles displayed on women who actually have them. 

I am 55 and it is nearly impossible to find a publication that shows what women really look like, with the exception of some European magazines.  To actually be a "woman of substance", one has to have lived and experienced life.  When these women are photo shopped so much that they appear to be 30 years younger, to me it subliminally says, that their accomplishments aren't enough;  that they are more substantial if they look 20. 

I know we live in a youth-oriented culture, but I wish MORE would make a small stand and show some "women of substance" who actually look their age.

Thank you. 

--Corrine Howell

Lesley,

Thank you for including 60s in your Stylebook Fashion for Grownups. When More was first published 17 years ago, i was thrilled to have a magazine geared toward women in my age bracket (50 and over). Now that I have reached the age of 70 and still lead a very active life, I so yearn for more articles with fashion suggestions. It would be even nicer if you could add a couple more pages geared to us faithful, long-term readers.

Thanks!

--Mollie

Reinvent my life - at 60??? I want to relax, sleep in, travel, go visit Dad and my kids in other states!  Reinvent my life at 60??  I've been working since the day I turned 16.  No reinvention here but the other "R" words, retirement, now that sounds like a plan!!

PS  Still love the mag!

--Anonymous

I love reading your Magazine More, there is a lot of information that I use.  You asked for us to give you our comments on More Magazine.  You always have articles about 30's, 40's 50's and 60+.  Somehow it seems to me that even using the number 70 or 80 doesn't apply to your magazine.  Is there an Expiration Date to the age of women you will speak about?

I just turned 70, but have noticed that men in general think I look fantastic, most of them guess me at 50.  But the minute I say 70, they disappear.  Another Expiration date.

I take Pilates and work out 5 times a week, I am a size 8 and I am in great shape and feel  fantastic.  Even women who are in their 50's or 60's make plans with you, the minute they hear I am 70, they seem to drop of the face of the earth and don't want  anything to do with you.  Another Expiration date.

Well my dear, here is some news, I am 70 and I am proud and own it.  But I must admit that I am disappointed that most Magazine's don't even mention us.  We shop, we buy shoes, dresses, we like to look good.  Just cause I am 70 doesn't mean I dress in a housecoat.  I like to buy clothes that look good on me and make me feel good.  Your idea of what is age appropriate for 30's, 40's, 50's are great and some how lost it when it came to 60+, they look down right awful and plan. I would totally wear a lot of the clothes you showed in your March issue for the 30's, 40's gals. The 60+ are totally plain and not for me. They were plain and no prints, this is your idea of 60+?????

--Anonymous

Dear Ms. Seymour,

I have been reading MORE for a long time. I am an eyelash away from 65. I don't have to be this old to see that the MEGA Maybelline mascara model on page 34 in March's edition is wearing major false eyelashes. What exactly will MEGA do for me without the falsies? I see it with every ad and company. Must besome women of my era with good enough eyelashes...

Keep up the good work and thanks for the sounding board.

--Vickie Denton

More Magazine,

I am so ashamed of myself for subscribing for so long to a magazine that misrepresents EVERYTHING about how an aging woman looks. If only the pictures matched the interesting articles...that would be wonderful.

You continue to use ads with celebrities that never age - how is that helping us feel good. And they are advertising products that will NEVER deliver. How is that helping us feel good about ourselves? Girls are dying from anorexia and suffering from bulimia and body dysmorphic disorders, and it doesn't take a rocket scientist to figure out why.

Courtney Cox made a beautiful cover last month; too bad Monica hasn't actually looked liked that in years. I have every intention of cancelling Oprah's mag as well. She shows in the pages how they 'transform' her into someone else every month. How is this helping anyone? I am so sick of the phony, misleading information.

I thought More was going to empower me as an aging women...all you do is make me feel worse with all the outright lies - it's beyond shameful. PLEASE STOP.

--Jennifer

I  subscribed to your magazine several years ago because it spoke to the 50+ generation and I didn't feel I had to go get a face lift because I was no longer "young."  Looking at the March 2014 edition and what I should wear as a 60 year old, really!  Give me a blanket and a rocking chair.  God awful ugly.  Very , very disappointing.  The magazine will hit the trash unopened.

--Patty

I am a long time loyal subscriber to MORE and have been waiting in vain to see anything which addresses we folk in our 70's regarding makeup, hair and fashion. I'm not fashion model material but still like to look my best. Help me out here!

Why stop at 60 in the magazines articles, when there are many of us in our 70's (or, possibly older) still interested in presenting an up to date, fashionable appearance.

If 50 is the new 30, then 70 might just be the new 50. Include us, please!

--Eve Niimi

Please feel free to share a comment with the editor that she took a great idea and turned it into a moronic version of a teen magazine.  The liberal bias runs throughout, which is fairly surprising for a magazine that is supposed to be about growing older gracefully.  I couldn’t stand to read it month after month and I wouldn’t even want it for $1 per issue.

--Andrea Durkin

Hello,

I don't think you personally read email, but if someone at More does, I just wanted to comment that I think it's ironic that in the March 2014 issue there is an article on Self-Acceptance and another on How to Shape Up Your Body....interesting....obviously, we should all try our best to be in good shape and health, but the content of each article contradicts the other....

--Lauren

I have had a subscription to MORE for many years now but I am not renewing it this year. The main reason is that it is getting more and more irrelevant to my age.  I am a 68 year old college educated woman who was in the work force for over 40 years, but everything that I read now in MORE stops with the 50year olds!! Yes, there are some model winners who are in their 60's and every once in a blue moon there is a "this is what 60 something looks like" , but by and large, we are forgotten.  Anyway, this probably won't even be read, but I felt I should make myself heard!!

--Anne Inabnett

Ms. Seymour,

I have had a subscription to MORE for several years as has my daughter, and have given to friends in the form of a gift.

I do love you magazine, and was impressed when i read the article Human by Peggy Orenstein...the last paragraph was the one that struck me the most. 

Regarding the 83 year woman Shirley Burgess who is still working.

While you have focsued on women up to 60....Maybe you have lost sight of the fact that we are living longer now...with that in mind...I for one would love to see you focus some articles on the 70-80 year olds as well, even have a woman older on your cover.

I am 81 years old myself I went back to work after my husband passed and worked for 23 years at a Fortune 500 company, and still do some work, and don't look too bad for that age..so i'm told, but I always believed age is just a number. 

Thanks for listening.

Regards,

--Marty

I have been a subscriber of More for about three years and gift two other people with subscriptions to "More".  I really enjoy the magazine and  the reason I signed up for it originally is that I am an older woman  with a young , active outlook on life.  I enjoy the fact that you cater to  mature women as well as the youthful beauties.  How about going beyond the sixties?

--Elnora Bratland

Hello:  I've been a charter subscriber to this wonderful magazine.  I've tried to accept the inclusion of 30's.  It really doesn't work for me.  Every time I see an article related to 30-year-olds it is jarring.  I'll continue my subscription but it is a less attractive publication with these changes.  Thanks for listening.  

--Susan King

Dear Editor,

Whoever was responsible for the What to Wear Over 60 segment should be arrested and do time with a women over 60!!  These colors and clothes are just plain (pun intended) ugly.  No older women looks good in clothing without collars, or in clothes with no colors.  She would look dead if she wore what you suggested.  For gawds sake, take those clothes and ....dye them a color!  Further more,  do your research girlfriend.  Obviously you did not consult women over 60.

We may be "more mature" but we aren't dead!

Living life...

--Marilyn Cardillo

I realize this happens to every woman.. but does it all happen in one day? Seems like my vision is a bit blurry, my glasses aren't working anymore. I'm blinking, I'm blinking, I can't focus on my computer... Don't squint!... Blink, blink, whew! Clear again.
I start to notice this is becoming a daily occurrence.

That night I wake up dripping in sweat. I realized it happened the night before too... I asked Freddie "is it hot to you at night lately?" He looks oddly at me expressing how its been chilly at best and in no way hot... Like I'm crazy or something.
Huh... Yikes. I began to realize my monthly cycle is getting lighter and lighter... Am I here? Has it arrived?

I called my sister who is one year younger than I am, sure enough, she's getting hot flashes & her cycle is waning too. Called a girlfriend about 10 years older and asked how it went down with her, how she managed it naturally and what she went through... What to expect, how to do it gracefully. She sent me Suzanne Somers book.

All this in mind, I'm walking through the warehouse at work and I hear myself whistling... Then I say out loud "what's with this whistling? I've never done that before".
The warehouse manager says (not knowing any of the above) "old people whistle all the time you know"

I went to get my eyes checked within the next few days... STOP IT!!
Yes, my vision has changed... Fine, that happens every few years... BUT NOW I NEED PROGRESSIVE LENSES!!...

I really am old! It just seemed to all happen in one day...
I don't look old, I wasn't feeling old, I never act old... But the facts are in, I'm old. There's no way around it.

And suddenly I'm back in the window of easy weight gain, painful joints, random lower back pain... It's like some old person is taking over my body.

Did it happen like that for you? And if you're too young to know... Just a little warning, this is what you have to look forward to... Good times!

--Laura Sweet

Dear Ms. Seymour,

I have enjoyed More Magazine so much over the years and have given it as a gift subscription more than once.  I must however, express disappointment over the most recent issue. If as a reader you could separate yourself and see the magazine with some distance, you may see my point.

This latest issue is a simply mess with strange messages and perhaps most egregiously, what appeaers to be an advertisement for an Amazonion National Geographic boat trip with someone called Nina Burleigh. I was left bored and a bit confused. Why was I supposed to care about this article? The trip full of self discovery is dead and done- but not in More. Whatever mission More has as a magazine, it is completely lost as this issue panders with a sad salve and a cup of tea. The fashion feature on what to wear at what age is insulting and basically a fashion trope of womens’ magazines. Basically the advice could suit any age and so therefore it is not so much “right” or “wrong” as it is just, besides the point. The overall tone is somehow wrong.

Perhaps my opinion is an exception, but every issue reads like the last. I do not recall this being the case in the past. How unfortunate that More magazine does not see its mandate to inform and energize its readership with real and practical articles of what affects us as individuals and a community. The endless stories of journeys and tales of self-improvement cease to be entertaining or enriching. The abortion article was the only one that I felt covered an issue of importance and relevance to what is going on now.

I would like to read articles on any of the following:  How can I plan to take care of my parents? What about myself? What can all women be doing with extra cash besides shopping? How easy it is to set up a trading account for stocks? Can the gym be dangerous? What can we do to reduce BPA exposure? How does one handle tense work environments with women and men?

I hope More gets a clue that its readership expects…you guessed it.

Sincerely,

--Blanche Hampton

I was surprised to see the lack of focus on voice and vocal characteristics in this series of short articles in the March issue.  You can use all the tricks outlined so carefully, but if you have a voice that is pitched high, you will have problems.  I watched a new CEO of an organization where I served as a senior executive struggle with the lack of impact that her speeches and presentations were making.  Finally, a confidential note to a sympathetic board member (male) resulted in some serious voice and speech training.  It took her voice down several notes to a comfortable listening range which resulted in better audience response.  By the way, this type of training is frequently done in the corporate world for new CEOs. 

My son always referred to my voice as the "bene gesserit Mom" voice, alluding to the sisterhood of the Dune series of books, where the women held much power by dint of their vocal command.  Being blessed with an alto speaking range, and a great high school speech teacher, I was able to learn the "command" use of voice.  Miss Davis also taught me that there are NOT three syllables in the word "out"!  Despite being 5"2", no one has ever looked bored in a presentation I have given since that training.

I would recommend a follow-up article that addresses how to change the range and timbre of your voice, if one so desires...

FYI, MORE is the only "female" magazine that I and my friends read...we are women of a "certain age" but not over the hill!

Cordially,

--Vicky Hardy

Hello,

I am a long-time subscriber and recommend More to all my friends.  I have one suggestion that might be of use to your readers.  It has to do with your What To Wear at different age groups. You put us Over 60 group in dull, subdued tones or pastels!  Listen, we like excitement in our clothing too!

Why not have a What to Wear for Different Body Types, rather than Age Groups?  Yes, not all of us are slim and trim despite our best efforts.  I am sure I am not alone from what I see.  Your suggestions don't always work for me, whereas a body type suggestion.

Thanks.

--Linda

Good afternoon, Ms. Seymour,

I'm a subscriber who really enjoys your magazine.  It's such a pleasure to see faces on the cover and inside that look like my own (I'll be 55 in a few months), and to read about these wonderful women.  I look forward to each issue.

That's why the article in the March issue about what to wear at the various stages of life was such a disappointment, at least as far as its advice for women in their 60s goes.  The choices for the other age groups showed fun, happy clothes, but everything for the woman in her 60s was brown or beige.  Boring! 

Perhaps you're familiar with this website: http://advancedstyle.blogspot.com/?  I realize that some of the outfits are a little wild, but it might still provide inspiration should you decide to do another article like this in the future.

Thank you, and keep up the good work!

--Annick Dellmann-Schafer

In every issue, You ask for feedback.  Every month, I vow to tell you how I have come to really enjoy the variety and substance of the articles you present. 

Yet in this survey, the article on page 98-105 was not included in What I Liked v. What I didn't.  I was so disappointed to see a such a politically charged topic presented as a Given that all women support abortion.  After giving birth to 4 beautiful babies, I am even more vehemently against abortion than I ever was before.  I detest having the assumption made that I support abortion just Because I am a woman.  What a disappointment, after reading such great articles by Joyce Maynard and Nina Burleigh.  Made multiplied by not having the option to comment about this in the survey.  

I truly hope you will profile a woman on the other side of the issue. 

To re-subscribe or NOT to re-subscribe, that is my dilemma.  

Hugely disappointing for a magazine I had come to love.....

Sincerely,

--Hillary M. Malsch

Ugh!  I'm in my 70's. The clothes u showed in ur March issue 4 women in their 60's were boring & dull!  U can do better. More

is the only mag that even try's to show fashions for older women. Please try a little harder!  

--Margaret Bambury

I recently subscribed to MORE Magazine because I thought it might be the one magazine for mature-but-still-with-it women.  Alas:  I found in the first issue I received an article entitled "What to Wear at 30, 40, 50, and 60."  Well, I'm 70 and still consider myself young -- at least young enough, and alive enough, to merit acknowledgement that I'm still worth being paid attention to!

All the "other" mags do the same thing;  I was just hoping you'd be different.

Sigh.

--Susan Nethery

Dear Lesley,

I have been a fan of MORE magazine for many years, either by my subscription or off the rack purchase. When I first started reading it, I couldn’t wait for the next month’s issue. But, that time has passed now.

The last 3 years, I have enjoyed your editorials about empty nest, and could relate as my two children fled off to out of state colleges, but I have also found MORE too commercial with too many ads, too high level of articles that lack real depth and too much emphasis on “What to Wear”, aging products and hair styles instead of the real issues we face as we age. MORE magazine has become a piece of clutter on my kitchen counter recently, and I am wondering what to do about it.

How can it continuously elude a huge factor in our lives: our aging and dying parents? When have you ever dedicated any real, consistent threads about this real issue? While we work full time and raise our families, we also have our parents.

Here is my example. I turned 51 years old the day of my mother’s funeral a couple of months ago. I still work full time for Hewlett Packard Global Sales, 28 years. While working, I have had to endure and aid with my father’s brain cancer progression and passing. And, just this past holiday, I was there to help my mother’s passing. We were able to keep her in her home for the three years she was deteriorating, the home she and my father built in 1962, but the demands of this process/caretaker juggling, medications, nurses viists, sibling arguing,  along with learning how to bring on hospice this last year while she was bedridden after debilitating strokes & dementia………….every time I picked up an issue of MORE, I so desperately needed an article of some depth that could help me through this time, bring me hope, bring me strength, tell me about the ‘angles’ that might visit my mom, tell me about ALL the resources out there to help us out, or too simply have an article about another woman going through a similar experience. But, there was nothing. So, I would continue to write in my daily journal about the ebb and flow of this 3 year experience and toss MORE to the side. My daily journal became and still is my bible for the last journey my mother & I were able to take together.

I cannot even read your March issue that just arrived. It makes me sad. There is nothing in there I can relate too after what I have gone through. I am sure may of your ‘lost’ readers feel the same way.

Why can’t the one magazine that encapsulates what we mature women have to face continuously misses out on the opportunity to reach out and help us through these fragile and tender times we all face with regards to our parents? Are you not there yet, Lesley? Are you estranged from your parents? Have yours already passed away?

Regards,

--Lisa George

Dear Lesley,

I found a copy of your March More magazine in my mail this afternoon and found it interesting. I might have even thought for a short moment of subscribing but I could not in all good conscious do so. Enclosed and hidden in the pages of your magazine is the article that accompanies the tease..."Would you risk your life for your beliefs?" Quite a play on words. This poor, poor woman was risking her life to murder many of the 56 million babies murdered through abortion since in the inception of Roe v Wade! Innocent children growing and developing in the safest place they could possibly be - their mothers womb. Instead they are injected in the top of their soft baby heads with salt and then ripped limb from limb. Sucked out by Julie Burkhart, the very person you appear to be so concerned with her welfare. As she destroys the life of others day in and day out with no compassion for the child she tosses in the trash - in pieces with no anesthesia.

Not once did you mention shear number of babies that do not get to even take their first deep breath. Your expecting sympathy and support for the woman who works counter to the purpose of her life as a woman; which is to birth, nurture and raise strong healthy children. Not once did you mention the depression that millions of women suffered after murdering their own children, not for a week or two, but years! Some till the day they die. People like you convince them that it is appropriate, acceptable and even their "right" to remove the little person God has placed in their wombs and their hearts to love and protect. Julie Burkhart should be jailed not revered. How ironic that your magazine encourages the death of the future readers of your magazine! Is that not wild when you think about it? Or do you even think about  it? Do you see the stupidity in that? Almost makes me laugh; but it is not a laughing matter.

You speak out both sides of your face - you speak about how wonderful women are and yet celebrate the destruction of the very babies who were to grow up as women if given the chance to survive.

I am throwing your rag in my trash where it belongs. Remove my name and address from your

--Mary Ann Parmentier

Good morning -

I am writing to request that my More magazine subscription be cancelled effective immediately. 

I received the March 2014 issue of your magazine this week and sat down this morning to peruse the contents.  In doing so, I came across the article titled "The Woman Who Won't Back Down" by Amanda Robb.  I read the article, and it is this piece of writing that has caused me to cancel my subscription.

While I certainly DO NOT condone violence against any organization and certainly DO NOT condone the murder of George Tiller, I even more adamantly DO NOT condone the murder of millions of innocent babies, which is what the subject of this article participates in and supports.  I realize that abortion is a controversial subject, but this article was not written in an unbiased manner, presenting both sides of the controversy with equal legitimacy.  The article was written in a manner that garners sympathy for Ms. Burkhart, and champions the abortion industry as some sort of "Godsend" to women.  I (and millions of other people) find her beliefs, and the beliefs of others like her, to be abhorrent.  Her quote highlighted on page 105 "Are we a country that FORCES Midwestern women to be pregnant?" highlights the ignorance of her "cause."  Short of cases of rape, no one FORCES any women to be pregnant.  Pregnancy is the result/consequence of a choice in behavior (again, except in cases of rape).  No innocent baby should pay the price for that choice with their life.  Perhaps if abortionists spent their money and time educating women about birth control, self-control, responsible choices, and encouraging the option of adoption, the entire abortion issue would become a far less pertinent subject in our society.

Again, I do not support violence or threats against any group or person.  I can, however, voice my own opinion with my words and with my dollars.  I will be a walking, talking negative advertisement for this publication moving forward.  I will not support a magazine that glorifies a practice that I find to be heartbreaking and reprehensible.  I would appreciate immediate cancellation of my subscription.  If I can receive a pro-rated refund for issues not yet received - that would be great.  If not - so be it.

I would appreciate verification that this cancellation request was received and granted.

Thank you.

--Kari Delaney

Ms Seymour-

I am writing in response to an article I read in the most recent edition of More.

I was horrified and sickened by Amanda Robb’s story about Julie Burkhart.  I was glad that Ms Robb shared where her perspective came from, an uncle who was murdered because he performed abortions.  Please understand that although I am unapologetically against abortion, I am also horrified at the behavior of many anti-abortionists (although we prefer to be called “pro-life”!)

Here is my perspective: I was born in 1965 to an unmarried college student.  Had abortion been as safe and available in 1965 as it has since become, I doubt I would be here.  I was adopted by wonderful parents, who taught me to value people of all kinds.  When I was about 10, my mother talked a young woman out of an abortion, and then adopted her child, my youngest brother. My oldest brother was adopted out of foster care. My sister is my parents’ biological child.  I am now a parent of two biological and two adopted children.

So here’s the thing: in my immediate family, more than half of the children were “unwanted” by their biological mothers. However, because these women were willing to carry us for nine months, we have had rich and rewarding lives.  Am I less valuable because my birth mother wasn’t ready to parent me? The promotion and performance of abortions robs millions of children of the chance that I, my siblings and my children have: to live, be loved, grow up.

I tried to do some research about abortion, but really, what you find depends on who is doing the research: the Guttmacher Institute (pro choice) finds no negative consequences to abortion, and the Elliot Institute (pro life) finds many.  Most women seem to seek abortion because they are simply unable or unwilling to parent (that’s from Guttmacher!) so wouldn’t adoption be a more positive solution (i.e. one thatdoesn’t involve the death of a child)?  Because that’s what abortion is: the death of a child.

That’s what I found so disturbing about Ms Robb’s treatment of this story.  She never acknowledges that abortion kills babies (except very briefly in reporting her interview with Troy Newman, who was presented as rather an idiot and a bully). They are tiny, yes, but recognizably babies, with brains and beating hearts and fingers and toes and earlobes.

Currently I work with an organization that seeks to provide support young women who are experiencing crisis pregnancies. In our small town, this has become something of a parenting resource centre, offering parenting classes to moms and dads (many who grew up in and out of foster care and have very few resources), counseling, anger management and a variety of other things. The women who work there provide stability, advice, clothes, diapers, formula, childcare, and help in a myriad of ways to these young women who want the best for their babies, even if they aren’t sure of their ability to provide it. They work long hours for very little pay, and fundraise constantly just to keep the doors open.  There is no government funding for what they do, and our clients pay nothing for services. To me, these women are the real heroes.

Thanks for taking time to read this – I hope that “complaints are as welcome as compliments”, as you claim.  I wanted you to know that not all of your readers share your assumptions about the “right” of abortion

--Kristen Ghesquiere

Lesley, 

I will not renew my subscription to More.  I took out my subscription with the thought that it would be an enjoyable magazine.  Clothing trends, makeup techniques for the 50ish woman.  I do not want to read about abortion.  I want to have my coffee/wine and enjoy your magazine.  I can watch any channel as you pointed out and be bombarded with trash.  You have had some excellent articles, this is not one of them.  Sorry....you've lost me. 

--Debbie

I loved your magazine until you took on such an offensive topic. More than half of the nation values life and does not support late term abortions. Why would you glorify this is beyond me. Death doesn't make More of anything. Please think before you offend so many women who value life at all stages. My boys were shocked to see this as I left the magazine open to show my husband. You do have conservative readers and it doesn't seem like you recognize such.

--Anonymous

Just read your March issue. "The Woman who won't back down" was disturbing. It's obvious that it was written with a pro abortion slant. Garbage,I usually encourage my friends to subscribe, but this article changed my mind. Young women today are much smarter than Ms.Burkhart,and don't fall for this sympathy filled story about poor Dr. Tiller and his associates. It's geared for left over hippies. I won't be renewing any subscriptions for More magazine and will encourage others to do the same. Mary Anne Calabrese   Maybe someone should tell Ms.Burkhart that womens health does not include killing human beings.

--Anonymous

Ms. Seymour,

I just received the March issue of  More and was appalled that you would publish an article celebrating Julie Burkhart and her work running an abortion clinic.  You look like a nice lady and I had enjoyed the other articles about ridding myself of things I don’t need any more and about what to wear at what age.  I can’t believe you actually support what this woman is doing.

The statement “Are we going to be a country that forces Midwestern women to be pregnant?” is ridiculous!  In 8th grade health class, I learned what causes women to be pregnant and it isn’t the lack of abortion clinics.  I understand that some women or young girls become pregnant due to rape or incest, but that is a rarity.  Most abortions are for birth control or the convenience of the mother.  Even babies who are conceived under the terrible situations of rape or incest have done nothing to deserve the death penalty.  They could be put up for adoption and it would benefit the mother and the baby as abortion is a horrible thing for a woman to deal with.

I know some people argue that the “thing” abortion removes from a woman’s body is not a baby, but have you never seen an ultrasound showing all the parts of the living being inside or one of the baby trying to move away from the instrument that is inserted in it’s supposed “safe” environment to kill him or her?

Abortion is not a medical procedure, it is a practice of killing the most innocent of the innocent, those who have no say in whether they live or die.  I don’t believe it is right to kill one who performs abortions any more than it is right to kill an unborn baby, but at least the abortionist has options.

Thank you for allowing me to share my feelings.  Again, I am very disappointed in your choice of people to publish.

Sincerely,

--Sandra Henderson

I was offended by this article.  I don't think More Magazine should be a place to spew political views.  By publishing this article, it seems to me that you are advocating abortion.  I don't believe in killing over abortion, but I don't believe in murdering babies.

--Anonymous

I am writing in regard to the article "The Woman Who Won't Back Down" in the March 2014 issue of More magazine.

Your portrayal of Julie Burkhart as a modern day hero is disappointing and perpetuates the myth that abortion is even necessary in 2014.  "Are we going to be a country that forces Midwestern women to be pregnant?"  I can hardly believe the statement.  Does ANY woman have to be pregnant?  Whatever happened to personal responsibility?  We have FREE birth control here in the Midwest and a multitude of contraceptive options.  It is a ludicrous statement. 

The portrayal of Troy Newman (miniscule) was quite different.  "His office decorated with hunting paraphernalia, a paperweight containing a hologram of an aborted fetus...."  No hero portrayal for him. 

No pro-life person I have every known would applaud the murder of George Tiller.   It is appalling, as is the murder of innocent unborn life. 

Women have a choice.  They have the choice to act responsibly.  To use contraceptives.  They have the choice to value life. 

Let me know when you decide to have an article about a woman who had an abortion and wishes every day of her life that she had not.  Let me know when you have an article about a woman who devotes her life to an organization that supports women and doesn't lead them down the path to their moral and emotional destruction.  Maybe then I will renew my subscription to More magazine and those that I have bought for friends.    As of now, I'm done with More Magazine.

--Ava F. Woelm

Murder is never O.K.   You can't condone assassinating abortion doctors.  But, abortion is not O.K., either.  I'm just blown away by doctors who actually see fetuses moving around on ultrasounds as they kill them who aren't appalled by the practice.  As women we carry children and that's a non negotiable fact of life.  Our choice is before conception not after. 

Having said that, society can't keep condemning a woman for an accidental pregnancy.  When a girl is terrified of her family and community she might look for any way out and an abortion might  look like the only way. 

It is not O.K. to kill  just because a pregnancy is inconvenient.  Adoption is the only acceptable answer. 

--Susan Russell

I am writing in response to the March issue article “The Woman Who Won’t Back Down”. I have enjoyed More magazine for a few years now, and have loved it (even sent gift subscriptions to friends!) because of the support, great info, non-offensive material that is in each issue. After reading the article “The Woman Who Won’t Back Down”, I felt that you have lumped all women into the category of being Pro Choice. Which I am not. Yes, Conservative women do read your magazine. To simply put all women into one category isn’t smart. I have a very strong Pro Life stand. I feel that in most cases of unwanted pregnancies, a woman’s choice is whether to engage in sex, or not. Sure, there are plenty of situations that don’t fit that category. We definitely need solutions to those situations. But, I am tired of the world making it seem that the only thing that matters is SEX! Are we all not intelligent enough to realize what causes a pregnancy? To say “Are we going to be a country that FORCES Midwestern women to be pregnant” is ridiculous!!! We do have choices (and once again, I am not talking about rape, etc.) For starters, you can choose to keep your pants on. Realize that sexual relations come with the potential pregnancy. Don’t take it out on an unborn child. I was disappointed in the article and that it made its way into your magazine. I enjoy the important and relevant content of most of your issues, but don’t know if I can support a magazine that supposes I support abortion.

--Anonymous

Hi, was just reading my latest issue--wanted you to know that I won't be subscribing again.  Your article about the abortion clinic was the final straw.  It makes a heroine out of a lady that is in the business of taking innocent life.  I didn't realize when I subscribed to your magazine that it was so liberal and I'm sure this letter will not affect your future issues any, but felt led to tell you why I will not be back.

Have a good evening,

--Aleta Anthony

Hello,

I purchased your March 2014 issue last Thursday while traveling. I was very excited to dig in and read some fascinating and fun articles.

I was completely disappointed by the article "The Woman That Won't Back Down". I found your teaser on the cover to be somewhat ironic "would you risk your life for your beliefs" (you failed to mention that babies die in that so called belief). I am a pro-life person who would have never purchased your magazine if I had know that was the article your were referencing. I am appalled! It was obvious that the editor was a stanch abortion supporter. When I purchased your magazine I was expecting to read articles that pertained to what you advertise:

Celebrates women of style and substance with articles on style, health, work, spirituality and relationships.

Curious as to where that article fit into the above description. Know this...I am a 45 year old successful business woman (I believe I am the demographic that you are seeking)..I will NEVER purchase your magazine again. Stick to who you say you are!

Thank you for taking the time to read this letter.

--Alexa Rae

I recently picked up your March 2014 magazine attracted by your cover. I really enjoyed most of the articles, especially the one on Anna Gunn and what to wear at 30,40,50 or sixty making me think that maybe I should subscribe. Then I came across the article by Amanda Robb “The Woman Who Won’t Back Down” and you lost me. In my twenties on grew up during the first thrust of feminism. While I certainly agree with  women’s rights in job advancement, equal pay for equal work etc., I also draw the line on abortion. As a registered nurse who’s career was spent in obstetrics and GYN issues, I believe vehemently that a woman’s right (?) to abort a child is morally wrong.  

This article was totally pro abortion and Julie Burkhart was held up as some kind of icon to continue in the footsteps of her murderous boss Dr. George Tiller….never in the whole article was the RIGHT of a conceived child to be born even alluded to. We as human’s all make choices, some of which result in an unwanted pregnancy, except possibly in the case of rape or incest. To use abortion as a form of birth control is not only a travesty but a very black stain on our humanity. When more is done for unwanted dogs and cats in our society than our children, we have crossed a line that will never be forgiven.

I am for CHILDREN’S rights…those too young, just conceived, or nearly born who have no say in what becomes of them. Women who have abortions and the men and women who support it are misguided in the belief that “everything can be taken care of…no consequences…no shame.”  I know from where I speak after conceiving a child after my husband had a vasectomy. I made the hard choice of continuing the pregnancy, making difficult adjustments to our lives, and now I have a beautiful 33 yr. old daughter who has given me my only wonderful granddaughter so far.

Please, I know your magazine stands up for “women of substance”, but at least have the courtesy to not push your feminist agenda on those of us who are highly offended.

--Cheryl A. Bell

Hi
 I did not like the abortion clinic article, because it wasn't clear where the author stood on the issue. 
I'm pro life and pro using birth control and common sense.  The article didn't really seem to fit into the magazine.  But if youre looking for variety,  how about a story about this band from South Africa? (See link below) they are very interesting and even moreso because they have a child together. They are called Die Antwoord.
Thanks!


--M. Dunn

I have a few suggestions for articles. I get the feeling you guys think all of the over-50 crowd are the same, that we're all a bunch of aging feminists. We're not. We're all a bunch of aging everything! Why not have an article on women who hunt and shoot? How about women who live their CHRISTIAN faith, not just who are spiritual. What about women who got screwed over by ObamaCare? I just loved the article you did in this month's issue about abortion. But I'm saying that with dripping sarcasm. I'd rather see an article about women who hunt.

--Jennifer Spooner

First Published Thu, 2014-03-27 13:12

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