My Family vs. Money
In my family the men spent and the women saved. While my father pursued his business ambitions attired in Petrocelli suits and drove a garish succession of Cadillacs, my mother and grandmother squirreled away pennies to purchase the United States Savings Bonds that would be my first nest egg. Three decades later they would give me another: their estates.
Growing up in a dreary New Jersey suburb, I had neither my father’s fl ash nor my mother’s dutiful sense of thrift. To me, money, when I considered it at all, could only mean escape. As a restless adolescent fired up with ’60s ideals, I used the bond stash to finance my early sojourns abroad. By age 20 I had studied and traveled in two dozen countries, yet I owned nothing but a few scraps of junk-store clothing and a Mamiya Sekor camera.
Then my father’s business failed. Overnight the tail fins and pricey threads dematerialized, and with them went the peacock-ish self-confidence that had enabled my father to build his wealth.
Myself vs. Money
Sobered, I thought long and hard about how I would earn a living. My mother and grandmother’s advice at the time seemed like a bad joke: "Marry a rich guy" was their mantra. But I snubbed their fairy-tale prince. I embarked on a course of study that would culminate in a master’s degree in international management and a frenetic career as a corporate-level executive for Hilton International Hotels. Before long I was earning more money than I had time to spend. By default, I began to save.
Not that I did so consciously or well. The money simply piled up in savings accounts until an uncle who was an accountant suggested a mutual fund. Over time my nest egg grew, not as much as it could have, but enough to reinforce my indifference toward personal finance. Although I monitored million-dollar budgets in my work and scrupulously minded my employers’ assets, my own lay neglected. Financial statements would arrive in the mail, but I was too busy to even open the envelopes.
During the ’90s, my parents’ health began to deteriorate. Watching my loved ones fight for their lives redoubled my resolve to live my own fully, authentically. I had always wanted to write, and now was the time. I left my job, dipped into my savings, pared down my possessions, and secluded myself in a rural hideaway with a high-speed computer and the complete works of Henry David Thoreau.
A Generous Gift
My parents and grandmother held on long enough to see me establish myself as a journalist and publish my first two nonfiction books. Then all three passed away in the space of one year. My father died as he had lived: in debt. My mother and grandmother left behind two inheritances, spread among a wide assortment of CDs, stocks and mutual funds. The pennies had multiplied thousands of times over, and I found myself with more money than I had accumulated through my dozen plus years of corporate toil.
But puzzling out their portfolios, especially in the face of all that grief, was more than I could bear. A personal banker I vaguely knew took me by the hand to meet the branch’s investment representative. An older woman with a maternal affect, she began poring over my financial statements, urging me to sell off my more conservative holdings in favor of growth funds invested heavily in-you guessed it-technology stocks. The funds she favored were expensive, carrying inflated share prices, high fees and renegade expense ratios. At first, I resisted. Not because of hard data (she provided none) but a gut feeling. Then she started calling me at home. Several months on, worn down by her badgering, doubting my own judgment and still mourning, I made the trip to her lair and signed the papers.
Back to Square One
What happened next is history: the worst bear market since the ’70s, with tech stocks leading the crash. Having made a cult of fiscal disregard, I was slow to grasp the magnitude of my losses, and then I was stung senseless. Queasy, I pored over my back statements myself and was stupefied by what I saw: unauthorized trades, churned commissions and dwindling assets. As the shock faded, I asked myself, "How could I have let this happen?"