Before we launch headlong into 2010, let’s take a moment to reflect on 2009. No sense in re-inventing the wheel, I always say, so it’s worth a few moments to groove the lessons learned this year to clear the way for the inevitable new ones coming our way next year. Here’s what I suggest:
First, ask: If I could take a Do-Over! on anything this year, what would it be?
Then, ask: What did I learn from this imaginary Do-Over!?
Here’s a sampling of the Do-Over! wisdom from my girlfriends:
"When writing emotionally charged emails, wait a day before pressing the "Send" button."
"Don’t react to a situation. Instead, keep your mouth shut until you have time to think. I lost one of my best friends this year over a misunderstanding."
"I wish I could do-over the way I reacted to a conflict within a group of my friends. I wish I had been more honest, with myself especially, about how the conflict affected me. I acted ‘fair’ when I was totally pissed off. I tried to be a friend to both sides and it felt increasingly slippery and gross."
Tell me, what is your Do-Over! wisdom from 2009?
c 2009Ann Daly
Life coach Ann Daly PhD is a fem-evangelist, devoted to the success and advancement of women. Before reinventing herself as a coach, consultant, and commentator, she was a journalist and then women’s studies professor. Dr. Daly is the author of six books, including Do-Over! How Women Are Reinventing Their Lives, scheduled for release in February. Sign up for her eletter and blog here.