In my 30’s I was doing it all. I had relationships that made me street smart, and I had relationships that made me think "why and I here?" I got married to a Doctor and had my son who now is 12 and I bring up on my own during the school year and the holidays are spent with his Dad.
There wasn’t a pharmaceutical rep that didn’t throw her-self at him and he took advantage of it. I had my own small business at home designing dresses for weddings and on the weekends I would sing with a band. I had it all, the nice car, I travelled, the jewelry and a lovely home.
When I got fete up with it all, I told him to pack him bags and get out! The reinvention of myself started, because after all, I had forgotten who I really was. I was able to land a job in Europe under contract for 3 years. I lived in Geneva, Saudi Arabia, and, Spain just to name a few. I really learned a lot and wouldn’t trade that time in my life for anything. I have great friends all over the world.
When I got back the turning point was hitting 40. Now what? I took a job as a Paralegal and worked my way through every day trying to see where my life would lead me. I decided to patent an idea that I had. Then, I moved forward and put my dream on paper. I borrowed money from my 401K plan and paid it back slowly. It was the only way that I could make it work.
My idea was patented 2 years. I was so excited to finally be an inventor and then I spent a year doing that. I started dating someone whom I had known from the inner circle of my attorney friends and he helped me push forward. I borrowed money from him and pay him back. Oh yes, PAID HIM BACK. Never did I take and not return whatever I borrowed.
So, by now I’m 46 and I spent my whole 46th year dealing with China. Tooling is not an easy thing, I have found out the hard way, not to mention that Chinese New Year comes once a year and everything stops. Finally, in a month I will have my product in my hands. I’ve designed boxes, inserts, websites all of which has taken time and money. But I can say that it’s been worth the ride and I’m looking forward to launching my product and making women happy. My website is www.sexy-do.com enjoy it.
In short there is love after 40, there is work after 40 and there will be success after 40. I wish all the women out there that have a vision to move forward and to have patience. I wish you the best and lots of success. The ride I can assure you is well worth it if you dare to dream just a little.
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