In my 30’s I was doing it all.  I had relationships that made me street smart, and I had relationships that made me think "why and I here?"  I got married to a Doctor and had my son who now is 12 and I bring up on my own during the school year and the holidays are spent with his Dad.

There wasn’t a pharmaceutical rep that didn’t throw her-self at him and he took advantage of it.  I had my own small business at home designing dresses for weddings and on the weekends I would sing with a band.  I had it all, the nice car, I travelled, the jewelry and a lovely home.

When I got fete up with it all, I told him to pack him bags and get out! The reinvention of myself started, because after all, I had forgotten who I really was.  I was able to land a job in Europe under contract for 3 years.  I lived in Geneva, Saudi Arabia, and, Spain just to name a few.  I really learned a lot and wouldn’t trade that time in my life for anything.  I have great friends all over the world. 

When I got back the turning point was hitting 40.  Now what? I took a job as a Paralegal and worked my way through every day trying to see where my life would lead me.  I decided to patent an idea that I had.  Then, I moved forward and put my dream on paper.  I borrowed money from my 401K plan and paid it back slowly.  It was the only way that I could make it work.  

My idea was patented 2 years. I was so excited to finally be an inventor and then I spent a year doing that.  I started dating someone whom I had known from the inner circle of my attorney friends and he helped me push forward.   I borrowed money from him and pay him back.  Oh yes, PAID HIM BACK.  Never did I take and not return whatever I borrowed.    

So, by now I’m 46 and I spent my whole 46th year dealing with China.  Tooling is not an easy thing, I have found out the hard way, not to mention that Chinese New Year comes once a year and everything stops.  Finally, in a month I will have my product in my hands.  I’ve designed boxes, inserts, websites all of which has taken time and money.  But I can say that it’s been worth the ride and I’m looking forward to launching my product and making women happy.  My website is www.sexy-do.com enjoy it.  

In short there is love after 40, there is work after 40 and there will be success after 40. I wish all the women out there that have a vision to move forward and to have patience.  I wish you the best and lots of success.  The ride I can assure you is well worth it if you dare to dream just a little.

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