At 45, I was the Girl in the Dress!

I thought I may have been destined for a life of singleness. I mean, let’s face it, dating in your 40s is no treat, better yet, it’s a real sport.

by SUSAN BOYLAN ASCHER • More.com Member { View Profile }

I thought I may have been destined for a life of singleness.  I mean, let’s face it, dating in your 40s is no treat, better yet, it’s a real sport.  Upon the suggestion from friends to try an online dating service, I finally caved and joined. Much to my surprise I met a wonderful man who 3 years later has become my husband.  We were married in May this year and my life is blessed.  I feel so supported, valued, and loved.  I feel like this is my time of life and it has been so worth the wait and energy behind all the "will I ever meet somebody?" questions.

The reason I feel compelled to share this story is because I really thought at one point that I might not ever get the chance to be married or share my life with someone.  That was really hard to come to terms with despite my eternal hope in my heart.  Barely there at times, mind you, but there, nonetheless!  The fact that truly knowing deep down your desire for a relationship has to be a specific request made known to your friends, family, and God is courageous.  I’ve learned that asking for what you really want, works!  I don’t want to appear that now that I am married, I am complete, it’s just that I am more fulfilled. The missing piece of the puzzle has surfaced and it’s really, really, nice to have that partner, and companion for life.  I guess I didn’t realize how capable, efficient, and sort of set in my ways that I had become until I met my other half.  I was really fine being single, it’s just that given the choice, having a confidant, and someone to share life with and be accountable to, is great.  No comparison, really. 

Our recent wedding and family events were spectacular and I was so very happy to dance in my wedding dress at 45.  It feels good.

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