Are You Waiting for Your Soul Mate?

by Dr. Fayr Barkley, Ph.D. • More.com Member { View Profile }

The media has a tendency to perpetuate stories born of myths. According to Theosophy, whose claims were modified by Edgar Cayce, God created androgynous souls, equally male and female. Later theories postulate that the souls split into separate genders, perhaps because they incurred karma while playing around on the Earth, or "separation from God". Over a number of reincarnations, each half seeks the other. When all karmic debt is purged, the two will fuse back together and return to the ultimate.(From Wikepedia). How often do we see boy meets girl, conflict occurs, one must clear karma or overcome a seemingly insurmountable issue or task before they can live happily ever after? Is it reality? Or is it a good story that sells tickets, makes us cry and yearn for such intense soul mate connection, and gives us all hope that once we find it, love will conquer all and our broken hearts will finally be healed? Are we really looking for a soul mate, or are we really just searching for love that will heal us?

Is having just a "soul" connection enough? If you are holding out for your soul mate, then what are you doing to find him or her? Can you afford to travel around the world and meet everyone? Don’t assume your soul mate is in your neighborhood, city, state, country. What age range do you think your soul mate is in? What if they are much older than you and you only like younger mates? What are you doing to improve yourself as a person so that if you do meet your soul mate they will be attracted to you? Or do you think they should be able to transcend the physical realm and want you simply because you are "soul mates" while you are not willing to accept him in any package less than what turns you on?

I know a man in his 60s, never married, says he won’t marry till he finds his soul mate. Well, since he only dates women under 35, how likely is he to find her? She may be in her 60s too, but since he refuses to meet or date women that age, he may have already missed her. I think he uses this as an excuse not to get close to a woman. Plus, he really has nothing to offer anyone. He is a narcissist and not very kind. Would his soul mate be an unkind narcissist, too? I doubt he would go for her if she was.

Interesting stuff to ponder. And it could take a lifetime of searching to find "the one." And then again, there is no guarantee that they would want you.

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