Do you have some great friendships that have lasted for decades? MORE editor-in-chief Lesley Jane Seymour shares her story here. And she’d love to hear about your experiences with friendship. Tell her below.
The women I’m closest to have been my friends for decades.
There’s Ellie, my adopted “big sister,” whom I met during a summer internship in the labs at the New York Aquarium on Coney Island. After many children, one divorce (hers) and several career developments (we’re both out of the lab now, Ellie in the food business and me in magazines), we still make pasta together on weekends and exchange insights.
Then there’s my younger sister, Beth, who wandered back into my life after 20 years of estrangement (we grew up living with separate parents and reintroduced ourselves just before my mother passed away). Brutally clearheaded and funny, she keeps me from romanticizing our past and helps me romanticize our kids’ futures: Her boy and girl are almost the same ages as mine, and we wonder together how to shape a future for them.
My friend Susan from sixth grade has re-emerged as a great theater partner, while Jackie, whom I met when our sons played T-ball together, has become my official suburban sister (like the Ricardos and the Mertzes, our families never even have to knock on the back door before entering). And lastly there’s Nancy, one of my closest business friends. We met when she was launching iVillage and I was the editor of Redbook. I gave her a magazine column, and she gave me a shoulder when, several years later, my career hit some white water.
I’m lucky to have such good friends—but according to statistics, I’m also lucky to have had them for so long, says Sally Koslow in her piece about friendship in our September issue (on sale August 24). According to Sally (who also happens to be a friend), recent research shows that people replace about half of their close friends every seven years! We grow, we divorce, we relocate, we compete, we become ill, and often, it seems, friendships can’t withstand the g-forces of those sharp curves. If you have lost some friends and would like to make more, check out Sally’s suggestions. And if you’ve had some of the same great friends for decades, please share your list with us by commenting below.
Friendship for life—that’s something we can all celebrate together.