When I tell people about The Real Cougar Woman the first thing they ask me is why are younger men attracted to older women? What is it about the age difference that’s such a turn on? When you stop to think about it it’s not so hard to figure out. Ageless beauties are far more likely to be financially independent, secure. They know what they want and just have that alluring je ne sais quoi that is hard to resist.
Two more things that make Real Cougars hard to resist is how they feel about having children, and how they feel about game playing. Real Cougars most likely have already had children or are childless by choice. So if a man doesn’t want kids—and many do not—it’s a relief not to be pressured by a woman ruled not her biological clock. And, when it comes to game playing, Real Cougars take a pass. Experience has taught her they don’t work; she is most comfortable telling it like it is.
Here are a few dating facts from a recent survey about cougars that you might find interesting.
* More than 90% of cougars are looking for a serious relationship—a myth-busting finding which shows that cougar women aren’t all just looking for casual fun.
* On a date, most cougar women either let the younger man pay for dinner or insist on splitting the check—who says cougar women are all sugar mamas?
* 45% of cougars have dated more than five younger men. It’s not just an experiment—dating younger men is often a lifestyle choice.
* Emotional baggage is what most turn cougars off dating men their own age, so older guys need to lighten up to compete.
A relationship with a younger man has its challenges. But honestly, what relationship doesn’t? If you are fed up with your dating choices, give the younger guys a chance. You might be pleasantly surprised.
Linda Franklin is the author of Don't Ever Call Me Ma’am: The Real Cougar Woman Handbook and the founder of TheRealCougarWoman.com.
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Most men my age not all but
Most men my age not all but most are not into to going out and having fun they just want to sit around the house or just not go out. Men a few years younger I find love to go out and have some fun: Dinner, dancing, shows and movies. Also they have a stronger sex drive and enjoy sexy dresses and more sexier things that are underneath. Don't get me wrong I don't try and act like a teenager I just like going out having dinner and taking in a show or going out dancing most men I have met that are 50 or older do not enjoy doing these things and I for myself am far too young to just settle down and stay at home all the time.
I don't like labels to begin
I don't like labels to begin with but I have to admit I am usually ten to fifteen older than the men I find myself dating these days. It hasn't been a deliberate choice just sheer chance, I think, as most men in my age range are either married, into younger women or as mentioned in the article carrying loads of emotional and sometimes financial baggage that make them bitter and difficult to relate to. Unfortunately, I am discovering that the younger men I have been dating also harbor some unusual emotional baggage. As exciting and accommodating as they tend to be they invariably fall into a familiar pattern of perceiving me as a mother figure, which I am not! I don't mind being the wiser in the relationship but at a certain point it becomes quite uncomfortable pyschologically speaking. It interferes with my romantic comfort zone and sadly shifts the dynamics of the relationship. I will probably continue to date and possibly marry a younger man, however, I am still looking for that rare individual who accepts me as his equal and vice versa.
Not ALL of them just want
Not ALL of them just want Sex...you can find that with a 20 year old..with a more supple body. I am 54 the man I have been seeing for almost a year is 28. He is European and appreciates me for what I am. We have more in common than we ever thought..and yes, we are improbable. Books, movies, theater, opera, travel. We have a more open and honest relationship than I had with a man my age for 10 years. We love to just watch movies, we don't have sex every single time we sleep together, we enjoy each other's company. What happens next, neither of us knows. But life is short and so each day we still like each other is just another day. Everyone is different. If he were a 28 year old American guy who liked to just go out and pound beers and watch football..I would have absolutely no interest. BUT I am not a COUGAR and anyone who calls themselves that is demeaning themselves. It is a cheap and derogatory name...don't kid yourselves.
Well!! I must live in the
Well!! I must live in the wrong city!(Lansing, MI) I consider myself a cougar...I like younger men! But all I attract is the much older men (50+) and the married men!!!!! Im a sexy 44yr old cougar! I dont look 44! Im selective about the younger men because a lot of them are "mama's boys" and want an older woman to take care of them! NOT! Im at the point of giving up!!! I don't want the drama...I just want a great date, good kisser, a good dancer. A younger man that shares my interest and family values!!! where can I meet these men? Any suggestions?
I was nervous about dating a
I was nervous about dating a man 12yrs younger than myself. I'm 40 and he is 28. I'm glad I took a chance with him. He is the most caring man I have ever met. I've dating older and my own age but I must say this is the best relationship I've ever had. There is no drama in our relationship. So take a chance if a younger man asks you out. You never know he may just be the one.
I TRULY had to laugh
I TRULY had to laugh EXTREMELY loud out loud because it is amazing at 2011 how closed minded some may be. None of us can speak for EVERYONE because we don't know EVERYONE. I am not a Cougar by choice and most men that I date are no more than 5-7 years younger than me. And it is not by choice BUT because I look ten years younger than what I am. And that is what I am told by women and men. And I don't consider myself an older woman with any type of "baggage" be it physical, financial, or emotional. I have my own and alway have for over twenty years. I am entitled to MY opinion and I say to each is own.
Before anyone goes off on a
Before anyone goes off on a rant on my opinions I am 30, engaged (younger women) and happy with my life.
This whole article is nonsense. First off 90% of men who are looking for cougar relationships (I call Hyenas), are strictly for sex. I have a friend who has hunted and conquerred a dozens on a monthly basis in NYC.
Older women have more baggage then any older guy ever would. That's why I call any man or woman dating someone 15-30 years younger then themselves (Hyenas) they pray on the young and weak. Most of these younger girls/guys most likely have some deep tramatic daddy/mommy issues.
I have nothing against these relationships, but I am entitled to my opinion when I say "disgusting".
We can see more and more
We can see more and more stars and people have a new kind of love with man(woman)!!! have you ever heard about it !!this may be a fashion one !! I have joined a group which is a group for younger man and older woman !! I have make many friends here!! I also find my love here!! he is 7 years younger than me ! he is charming and handsome!! I want to say!! when you go to ---cougarconnecting.com---- !! age becomes just a number!!!why not to have a try!!
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