Democrat Dating a Republican: Can It Last?

Can an Obama girl fall in love with a diehard Republican?’s dating expert explores bipartisan couplehood.

By Sherry Amatenstein, LMSW

Rather than having a knee-jerk negative reaction, look to being with an "other" as a learning opportunity. Elaine Cole says of her relationship with a political opposite, "Being with an intelligent, articulate Republican helps me have a clearer, more logical view about my beliefs. And there’s an amazing amount of common ground, many things we both believe in — like the need to find new ways drill for oil that won’t hurt the environment." Coleman adds, "Look to what the two of you have in common — and judge the relationship for its shared goals, similarities of lifestyles, basic values, and compatibility."

Still not sure a red/blue relationship is a good idea? Consider this: The divorce rate is just as high among same-party couples!

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About Sherry Amatenstein

Sherry Amatenstein, LMSW, is the author of Love Lessons from Bad Breakups and Q&A Dating Book. She runs dating seminars around the country and does private coaching — not to help singles marry in 60 days, but to uncover their blocks. She has given relationship advice on the Early Show, Regis, Inside Edition, CBS News, VH1, BBC, and many other programs. Her philosophy is that the most important relationship you’ll ever have is with yourself.

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gerald 09.14.2014

Anyone who dates a republican after bush jr, deserves all the headaches they get!! Most caucasian males embrace the republican party because it caters to their core belief that white privilege is slipping away and they're scared to death! With fox news pumping out racist filth by the day, and playing on many ill informed fears about anything other than white anglo saxon supposedly christian people, being friends with republicans has become almost impossible. republican men are typical egotistical white guys who are secretly afraid of EVERYTHING!! why any woman with ANY self respect would considered dating a republican has to be because of physical attraction or financial weath, and guess what? those two reasons aren't a stable foundation fox a quality relationship.

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