The scenario isn’t always neat. After her second date with “Nice Mike,” which was dinner at a fairly fancy restaurant, I was nervous when she didn’t text by 11 p.m. I called my sister. “Do you think Mom was kidnapped?” Suddenly we find ourselves worrying about men as she did for us as dating teens.
She hasn’t found “the one” yet. But she is working through her grief and sees herself as someone with another romantic life still to come. Relative to the men she’s met, she feels young and attractive.
She may not have found Mr. Right (yet!), but in the process she is finding herself.
Stacy Wolf is Professor of Theater and Director of the Princeton Atelier in the Lewis Center for the Arts at Princeton University and the author of Changed for Good: A Feminist History of the Broadway Musical (Oxford, 2011). This piece is via The Op-Ed Project Public Voices Fellowship Program at Princeton University.