Sexual Late-Bloomers

For some women, great sex begins at midlife. MORE.com’s dating expert explains why.

By Sherry Amatenstein, LMSW
I’m fulfilled at work — the movies are my sexual outlet." It’s safe, as everyone is tested; and since her lovemaking is primarily confined to the set, she is spared "the messiness of relationships."While Foxx’s experience seems extreme to most of us, she is not alone in realizing that life is short — so why live according to repressive rules? Increasingly, women are waking up at midlife and asking, Is this all there is? I want something else.Remember, it truly is never too late. Dr. Wish, the psychologist who works primarily with a baby boomer clientele, laughs, "I had an 80-year-old woman in my office who said, ‘I’m here because I’m not getting any younger and I want to have an ‘organism’ before I die."Rock on, sister.Do you have a tough question about dating or relationships?E-mail Sherry at DatingExpert@More.com and your question might be featured in an upcoming column.E-mail Sherry About Sherry AmatensteinSherry Amatenstein, LMSW, is the author of Love Lessons from Bad Breakups and Q&A Dating Book. She runs dating seminars around the country and does private coaching — not to help singles marry in 60 days, but to uncover their blocks. She has given relationship advice on the Early Show, Regis, Inside Edition, CBS News, VH1, BBC, and many other programs. Her philosophy is that the most important relationship you’ll ever have is with yourself.Schedule a one-on-one coaching session with Sherry Buy Love Lessons from Bad Breakups Buy The Q&A Dating Book Originally published on MORE.com, February 2008.

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