If you are a Real Cougar, a woman who is smart, confident and independent, you have taken risks, traveled down many different roads and learned a lot of valuable lessons along the way.
I don’t have to tell you falling in love is easy but keeping that love sizzling is a lot more difficult. We cougars like to do things our way and the truth is it’s hard for some men to keep up with us. Sure, we are over 40 and some of us over 50, but we keep our bodies and minds in tip-top shape. And, contrary to public opinion, we are not ready to pack up our sexuality either. In fact as we get older sex becomes even more fun. We are much more confident, we tell our man what makes us smile, and are much more adventurous than we’ve ever been.
That’s why it’s not surprising that so many women are trading in their 60-year-old man for two energetic 30-year-olds.
So what do cougars really want from the man in their life? In our twenties we were looking for a tall, dark and handsome stranger to sweep us off our feet. We wanted Prince Charming. Today things are a lot different. We’ve learned by trial and error what works and what doesn’t in making a relationship thrive. I polled the thousands of women in The Real Cougar Woman Club, my online community, and here’s what they told me they want most:
A man who accepts you for the women you are, not some fantasy he’s concocted.
A man who is secure with who he is and doesn’t need you to complete him.
A man who is a good decision maker and keeps a cool head when yours isn’t.
A man who is relaxed and easygoing, especially if you have a demanding power job.
A man who is loving and affectionate, and who appreciates the adventurous sex goddess you really are.
A man who won’t be crushed if you make more money than he does.
If you are lucky enough to find a guy with all those qualities, you are going to be one happy cougar. I would love to hear what makes your relationships work. Please share by leaving a comment below.
Linda Franklin is the author of Don’t Ever Call Me Ma’am: The Real Cougar Woman Handbook and the founder of TheRealCougarWoman.com.