Looking for Love? It's Behind the Milk

Advice on where to find a soul mate and how to think about the search for love. 

by Lisa Caroselli • More.com Member { View Profile }
Lisa Caroselli is a Certified Love Attraction™ Coach. Find her at http://www.lisasloveliftoff.


Have you ever told someone to go grab something in the refrigerator only to have them come back and say it’s not there? In our household, we just tell them — “It’s behind the milk!” It’s a very simple way of stating that they gave up too soon. Sometimes there will be a little bit of a standoff and a challenge to prove that it's there. When the item is revealed, we just laugh it off and repeat that it was behind the milk.

When we’re looking to meet up with our soulmate, we often run into a similar scenario. We look around our current landscape and declare they are not there for any number of reasons. Often, it boils down to this assumption: We believe they are nowhere in sight because we have already looked. 

According to The National Marriage Project, a nonpartisan, nonsectarian, and interdisciplinary initiative located at the University of Virginia, almost 60 percent of married people were introduced by family, friends, co-workers or other acquaintances. 

This doesn’t mean that you should get out there and start surveying friends and family. Nor does it mean that this is the only way for you to come together with your soul mate. Instead, I hope that you would consider that the empty landscape of possibility has a lot to do with your perception and perspective. 

Remember, your intention for love involves another. Instead of trying to figure out what you need to do to attract someone, open up to the possibility that you have not explored every option and that you are not seeing the whole picture.

  • Have faith. Be willing to believe that there is someone who is perfect for you and you for them. This is an important one. Note that I used the words “be willing.” That’s all you need (especially for those of us who need proof before we commit).
  • You are not alone in this. Consider the possibility that he/she already exists, and that he/she is on their way toward you. (They have to have at least been born by now.) They have just as much of an interest in finding you as you have in finding them.
  • Take a second look at your assumptions. He/she could be behind the milk. Admit that you do not know it all and that they may all ready be in your experience either directly or indirectly through your interests, friends, work colleagues, and acquaintances.
  • Assume the Universe is working on your behalf, regardless of any blocks you think you may have. Love is the most powerful force in the Universe. If you think about it for a moment, it’s sort of arrogant to think that you are so special that you can block love. If you want a loving, committed relationship, you are meant to have it just as you are, right now. There are no exceptions. If you feel that you have been waiting a long time for love, spend some time contemplating the power of love and its ability to overcome any obstacle.

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