Focus on relationships outside your marriage. As a single woman, it’s that last piece of advice from the world of couples research that resonates the most with me. Married couples can be surprisingly insular – studies show that they are less likely to stay in contact with parents, extended family or to be politically active. After my divorce, I realized how much I had neglected my friendships, and the end of my marriage presented an opportunity to rebuild those relationships with the wonderful women in my life.
The best lesson from my divorce, and from my experience writing a book about relationships, is about the power we all have to forge more positive relationships with the people we love, whether we are married to them or not.
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