A Declaration of Reinvention

After losing two jobs and navigating a new relationship, she vows to relax, spend time with family, volunteer.

by Jessica Plumer • More.com Member { View Profile }
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Can a person overcome poverty, neglect, low self-esteem? I like to think they can. I have been able to put aside some horrible experiences. I believe in unconditional love. Sometimes I feel most people are always looking for what they can get out of a relationship. A man from Kenya I met recently explained how an American woman left him after he helped raise her daughter from a previous marriage and then asked him for a divorce. She asked for the two vehicles, the home, and the bank accounts. He asked me if that is how American women are. He went on to explain that in his country the man always gives his belongings to his family. So he was left with nothing but his job. I could feel the pain in his voice.

The sad thing is, I do feel that Americans are all about material things and take whatever they can for self-satisfaction. I told him his country has different family values and culture. I could only think about all the women, children, and men who get hurt by divorces.

Trust is something that doesn't come easy when most of the people you think love you (and you love them back completely), treat you like a paper plate. Use it and get rid of it. But I choose not to live my life holding on to anger or the past. I will do whatever I need to do because it is the right thing to do.

I have lost two jobs in the last year — one a career position as an insurance agent and the other as a temporary administrative assistant. It is not good when a temporary contract ends early. With school budget cuts, funds were not available to support speaker and seminar events that the company sponsored and published books for.

So, now I am re-evaluating what I really want to do with the rest of my life. I mean that in the truest sense.  

I am in a fairly new relationship, which I am trying to trust again.

I have some business ideas that I would love to make happen.

I want to find a cause that I would love to volunteer for. One that really matters and that I can make a difference with my time.

I would like to make more time for myself, be more active, relax more, and spend more time with my family. 

I am sure there are many things that I can think of at this time that I should do more of and am convinced that they will come to me when I am too busy doing the things I need to do.

That is how I want to reinvent myself — to rise up and be a better person to the planet and people.It is up to me how to I do this. I will begin by getting back to singing with a fabulous group of women in my town. I will keep my story updated as I get to where I want to be. Thanks for listening.



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