There is a lot to be said about confidence and a "can do" attitude. Your victory is there, you just have to learn to believe that you are the blessed, you're here to bless, and blessings abound to those who believe. Thoreau has gotten me through some mighty tough times and I recommend it to anyone going through a crisis or hardship in there lives. It is this: "Dare to be remarkable. Go confidently in the direction of your dreams." (Thoreau)
I have been to the school of hard knocks. I am sure there is one in every city in the world. I wish I would have made better choices when I was younger but since I am not there anymore, I have to look at today and say, "O.K., what decisions am I going to make today that will give me a better outcome for tomorrow? You just have to live for the now, because it's all you are and ever will be. If you don't like your life, change it. If your life is great already, it's your turn to be a leg up for someone else, because when you do that you are helping yourself in every possible way.