I'm a 45 year old man who's seen more in life than I care to admit to anyone. I'm married with 4 children ages 13, 11, 9 and 7 (2 boys and 2 girls). My wife and I have been married 3 times and divorced twice - Yes, to each other. My love for my wife is only second to the love for my children, and my life revolves around them. I have two degrees, one in psychology (with a specialization in Human Sexuality) and the other in sociology (with a specialization in Thanatology, the study of death and dying) and enough college credits for a third in no particular field of study.
We currently live in a small rural area of Arkansas and suffer from moderate cultural shock after living in a large northern city most of my life. Although I have the degrees and training, I work a local steel mill operating heavy equipment because it pays more than anything I could do in this area within my degree fields.
I see life through the eyes of someone who has seen and done more in life than most would ever want or have to do. My opinions are based on experience and information, not emotion, and are subject to change when new information comes along. I am not, nor ever have or will be, set in my ways. I think when a person stops being able to change, or change their mind, they cease to be able to grow as a human being. I tell things the way I see them and have been told I'm honest to the point of being cruel to people because I won't sugar coat things to make people feel better. Political correctness is NOT something I profess to in life. On the same token, I can't stand racism, sexism, homophobia or hate mongering - There is no person on the face of this earth that I truly hate......I may not like some people, but I hate no one.
People who are closest to me know that I never try to judge people and as a result I have had a great many friends in life that most people call strange or deviant.
I write short stories, poetry and occasionally contribute articles to several sources, online and off. I have also given lectures at several major college symposiums on death and dying and co-authored a college course on death and dying at a local college. While I do not work in my degree fields, I do stay active in my learning and keep up with new developments in the areas of my degrees. I also write occasional articles for professional journals and magazines.
In the event you are wondering about the origin of my moniker (Pallida Mors), it is Latin for "Pale Death", or the equivalent of the Grim Reaper in the language. It was given to me as a nickname by a college professor (who was also my mentor and friend) years ago and refers to my study of death and dying and the fact I took Latin as a second language in college. I have used it as my sole online name for 15 years now to guard my privacy.