More: You recently turned 51 years old. How are your fifties treating you?
VM: The older I get, the smarter and stronger I get. My body is great, I feel youthful, and I see changes that I am really grateful for.
More: It's great that you celebrate your age.
VM: Oh, yeah! I was raised by an incredible mom. My mom always had all the candles on her birthday cake, whereas all the other moms never talked about their age. My mom was open and honest about her journey in life. She was never ashamed of having a few lines or a few more candles. I wasn’t raised in an environment where age was the enemy. If anything, age made you stronger. Age made you smarter and even more sensual. Age also made you feel free.
More: Sounds as if you don’t miss your twenties.
VM: No. Look, I get that Hollywood is about being young and beautiful and age is the enemy. These young actors may get the abundance of work, but I get the quality of work. Hollywood may come across as a youth-oriented town, but there is plenty of room for actors of all ages.
More: Did being in your twenties have its advantages?
VM: I was very uncomfortable being a young talent. I was stepped on and very taken advantage of. I was told to lose weight and then told here is how to be bulimic. They put a lot of young girls through a lot. I tell young talent to hang on because it will get better. When you get older and walk through the door, you will automatically get respect.
More: What were some of the disadvantages?
VM: You are really self-conscious. In every meeting, they pick you apart, find all your faults and tell you what is wrong with you. Then when you get the job, they try to turn you into perfection for their film. Let me tell you, that had ramifications in my personal life, especially when it came time for lovers. I was so self-conscious when it came to the physical body, my hair, my face, even my tits—everything made me self-conscious. I always had to change something. Now I don’t have to do that. I am happy with who I am!
More: Did you get your big break because you hung out with the in crowd?
VM: I made it later. I had two big breaks. The first was Dune, which was my first real role in Hollywood. My monologue at the beginning of the film is what so many people remember me for. I got a lot of attention for that role—many more roles after and a ton of meetings. The other really big role for me that got people to notice me was Sideways. That was another huge break for me.
More: A star is born!
VM: In this business, you hopefully get a number of lucky breaks along the way and with them get that lucky audition and lucky part. What we do, because it is artistic—you never stay on top. You are always trying to get the next gig. You have to have thick skin if you want to play this game, plus you also have to be patient and smart before the next break comes along.
More: Did you stress yourself out to find a film like Sideway sto keep yourself adored by fans?
VM: If I had that “people have to love me” attitude, I would never survive. You cannot think of, “I have to repeat this.” All you can do is go from job to job to job and be stable in your private life. You have to treat this as a business and take care of the soft underbelly that is the artist. The longer you stay in it, the smarter you get. I credit that part of my longevity to age.
More: Has anyone ever said age was a problem?
VM: Even if they did, I don’t care. I’ve been too young, too pretty, too fat or too something. Now, if they think I am too old, fuck them! I am not looking to be 25. I recognize the value of who I am and the value of what I have to offer the industry. As you get older, your opinion of yourself matters more than other people’s opinion of you!