The Importance of Birthday Bashes with Girlfriends

She believes real happiness arrives after 40, which is by she approaches birthday celebrations with great party ideas and great friends.

by Shelley GoodStein • Member { View Profile }
Shelley GoodStein is the author of "Face This: Real Advice from Real Models, Photographers and Makeup Artists on How to Become Picture Perfect"

Along the transitions in my life, I have been empowered by many great goddesses that have surrounded me in a protective bubble of love, harmony, unity, and wondrous kindness. This year for my birthday, I called out to my ethereal friends and their demi-gods to merge these energies to celebrate my birthday and nourish my soul with laughter at a local Hookah lounge.

I asked my girlfriends to come dressed in whatever made them feel goddess-like — flowers in their hair, glitter, draping chiffon. It was time to play dress up! I selected goddess names for each and framed them as a keepsake. For my friend Cheri, a mother of two who went through a divorce at the same time as me, I gave the name “Hathor, an Egyptian deity of heaven, motherhood, love and the goddess of dance. She was a patron of all women, no matter their station in life.”

I asked my guests to let their gift to me be their presence, but that I would gladly accept anything that was handmade from the heart. I received a wondrous poem, art, and jelly! We were nourished with hummus, entertained by exotic belly dancers, and enticed by the pineapple hookah!

Birthdays. Love 'em or hate 'em, they are inevitable. Why is it that we dread celebrating or wait until the milestone big-0 to commemorate them? It’s normal to feel reluctant about a change in your chronological age, but I encourage all of you to put away your expectations that you should be checking off a list of accomplishments. Life unfolds for us in such awe-inspiring ways, and if you are too caught up in a scheduled path, you may miss it!

Birthdays are good for you! A study published last year in the Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences showed that people get happier as they get older! Have you stopped celebrating your birthdays? How old would you be if you could decide your own age? Personally, I think you have to be over 40 to finally be really happy! I read about a woman in Florida who celebrated her 100th birthday on a treadmill. She said she “feels good after exercise!”

  • Here are a few birthday party ideas: An around-the-world party, high tea, gratitude party, diva safari — night on the town!, karaoke room, and a SPA Shindig.
  • Or, street shopping: Walk down a quirky street fora trip down memory lane. 

    Try on outrageous hats, checkout an old bookstore, bargain shop at a vintage/resale store, visit a wine bar or funky bistro!

This is what I know:  One bite of birthday cake is never enough. I am the only one like me in the world, and I want to live my life from the inside out, celebrating with the people I love most every year — at dinner with my kids, on a long weekend getaway with my husband, or throwing a goddess party. And singing happy birthday every year, right on key!


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