We Hear You! Letters from Our April 2012 Issue

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Perhaps, one of your fashion focus articles can be about finding good deals on a limited budget....very limited budget. I think in this economy, and with all the other living expenses that we have on a daily basis, people might like to know that they do not have to spend alot of money to have both themselves looking wonderful or their children well-dressed.

These are just my thoughts. Do with them what you would like!
--Janet Foust

My husband had been a Rotarian for the first few years of our marriage. I was always involved in his club’s fund raising efforts and enjoyed the camaderie there.

After about 10 years of that, a very progressive male Rotarian approached me and asked me if I would ever consider joining the club, “once the powers that be” would approve female members.

I was the first woman in our area to join and had a great time working with children around the world, helping put in wells in third world countries, and doing a lot of local charity work.

My greatest compliment was when one of the senior members of Rotary told me that I was a “much better Rotarian” than my husband!
--Maria Babcock, Syracuse, NY

Ok, so, I have an admission: When an issue of MORE showed up in my mailbox, I was angry and also depressed. I had no idea how I got it - I had not bought a subscription! - and, more importantly, I am only 42! I am not old enough to be reading this magazine! Righteously indignant, I put it in my magazine pile under my coffee table to languish there in perpetuity. Or so I thought...

Tired on this Friday afternoon, kids playing outside below my window, I mixed a martini and spied MORE under my table. Why not? I thought. I AM 42, after all, divorced with two kids, ages 9 and 6. I have earned this tired and maybe someone in these pages feels the same...

Well....I stopped reading only 30 pages in to write to you. WHAT AN AMAZING MAGAZINE! The layout is wonderful, the articles are intriguing and appropriate. I feel like I have come home. I was recently a fan of other magazines, tho sometimes I felt disconnected and did not know why. Now I do. Thank you.

Now, if you will excuse me, I have to get back to reading MORE!
--Marni Winslow

Thank you for your letter from the editor in the April issue. I totally resonated with me. As I read each word I just sat there nodding my head in agreement knowing intuitively where you were going with your thought as I am THERE! As a stay at home mom of 3 (12, 10 and 6) and coming up on my 44th birthday – I definitely have noticed a change in the way I view my world and my interaction with my kids and husband. I thought it was from recently reading the Happiness Project and now reading all 3 books in the 50 Shades of Grey series – but maybe it is just this time in my life. The reason I mention the two books is both seemed to have an effect on my. The Happiness Project, while I was reading it, I kept thinking this would have been really good when I was younger. I had to figure out on my own more or less how to operate that “tiny clown car”. Maybe figuring it out on my own was the only way for me to appreciate now the need to slow down and do the things to help me “live my life fuller, richer and slower”. And in the second book – well I appreciate my relationship with my husband more. Not just the behind the door aspect of it, but the give and take and constant learning that happens in any relationship and as we each change over time learning to adjust and anticipate.

Just wanted to let you know your letter came at the right time for me to reinforce what I was already thinking. Now back on task – I have about 10 more things to fit in “the car” before I pick the kids up from school in 10 minutes.
--Ailene Renzi

First Published March 27, 2012

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04.22.2012

"Broke but no Broken" / May 2012
Upon reading Corbyn Hightower's piece lamenting her family's loss of a five figure per month income, I have to say I'm dismayed, for both her and for all of us.
Ten years ago as I recovered from illness, my daughter and I lived on a fixed SSI income of $500 per month. We had no television, could not afford to eat outside of our kitchen, but subsidized housing make it possible for us to live in a not-so-pretty, but safe neighborhood and afford the use of public transit.
Four years later and recovered, I was able to secure a better job, move to a larger apartment in a very nice neighborhood where we could have afforded to own a car, but instead opted to keep our lifestyle simple and use transit and a car sharing option available to us. We lived very well on $2,000 a month and counted ourselves fortunate and happy.
Two years ago a very close friend went through a job loss similar to Ms. Hightowers and lamented that she could no longer maintain a $5,000 per month lifestyle as a single person.
I do not understand why Americans feel they have a right to complain so loudly about the loss of decadent, excessive lifestyles while others live with hunger and want, or simply find contentment with just enough. Perhaps the economic losses some of us are experiencing now are destiny teaching us a valuable less that may result in actual happiness that is earned, not purchased.


Going back over some back issues I discovered I did not read the article Hillary's Secret Weapon. Not only did I see Hillary in a new light, I discovered a new writer. I like Lisa DePaul's style of writing. I hope to be reading more of her articles from here on out in your magazine. Please pass this on that to her as well. Thank you.
Marcia Lobby Lee

FWDSA 04.13.2012

I will keep this months issue because of the Making Time for What Matters. The articles by the four women are good to go back to on a regular basis. My favorite line was, "This is a silly way to spend a lovely life."

Susannah bishop04.07.2012

I have never written to a magazine before, but as I finished reading the story of Hillary Clinton I have to comment. What an outstanding story about our Secretary of State! Not only did it capture what Ms Clinton is trying to do for women's rights, and how hard she works for this cause, but also it captured the essence of the person she is. How refreshing to read such a positive article. Thank you More magazine for showing us so much More about Hillary than we ever knew.

Sharon DeLay03.31.2012

I'm a huge fan of your magazine, but lately it seems like I'm reading Glamour, not a magazine targeted to women my age. Julianna Margulies is lovely, but to put her on the cover over Hillary Clinton? I simply can't wrap my mind around that particular decision. When you think of substance, who could be more substantive than Hillary Clinton? Bad choice, More!

Judith Ruderman03.28.2012

I just finished Barbara Graham's magnificent memoir in the April issue of More and wanted to write in appreciation. The essay was so beautifully written, which in and of itself is a gift; but in addition, the subject was so sensitively handled. I suspect that I related intimately to the essay because I moved my difficult mother near me for five years before she died. She was not elegant or wealthy, like Ms. Graham's mother, but she took great pains with her appearance and we had our many years of a difficult relationship. It is 9 years since she passed away, and I think of her all the time, with affection and, yes, with love.
Thank you so much for such a moving memoir,
Judith Ruderman
Durham NC


Over 15 years ago, as a mother of two young boys, I remember the routine of meeting and striking up casual conversations with other mothers in our Danforth-area schoolyard as we waited for our children to finish their activities and meander their way home with us. There was a mother I particularly remember, for her smile, her style, her smarts, and for her beautiful daughter, who had Down Syndrome. I remember being inspired by her and thinking, “Wow – there’s someone who’s really got it together. She’s a successful writer who works at home, and a mother who is therefore available to tend to her daughter and give her the support she needs, and it’s obviously all working – I have never seen her, or her daughter, without smiles on their faces.”
While we moved from the neighbourhood many years ago, I was always excited to come across Madeleine Greey’s published articles from time to time, and was especially thrilled to hear that her daughter – who was in my son’s elementary classes – achieved success as an actress.
While Madeleine would never remember me, I continued to feel that I knew her somewhat, and that’s why it shocked and saddened me so much to read her article on her husband’s passing.
I’d like to pass my deepest condolences onto you and your family, Madeleine, and hope that your strength and positive attitude help smooth your road.
Liina Kerk-Tedesco

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