We Hear You! Letters from Our April 2012 Issue

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Recently I was boarding the train to New York. I purchased More Magazine (which I love) but I was dissapointed by your April cover. Beauty tips for 30,40,50,60, Should be beauty tips for all ages.There is no expiration date at age 60! There are many women over 60 who would appreciate good skin care and glamour tips ! I have been teaching skin care and glamour for 30 years . Taking care of your skin is the key. I feel I have proved it. I was 80 on my last birthday. I still have a good mind and very few wrinkles. If Sophia Loren and Raquel Welsh could do it so could I . I have done it without surgery. --Joan Feldman
Your April letter touched my heart as I just retired after 26 plus years of working full-time, raising three boys alone, and taking care of my Mom until she passed. While my white hair started at 17, and deciding at 30 that it wasn’t fashionable to have hair that made me look 20 years older, I colored it a vibrant auburn that stayed with me until the cusp of 50. The color matched my personality, and while I miss how it made me feel, I enjoy being free from touch-up hell.

Having three adolescent boys simultaneously, and dealing with a stressful job and a somewhat demanding mother, made me long for the days of freedom–my freedom–when I would be able to come and go as I pleased without living by everyone else’s schedule. After the boys had grown and finally left the nest (somewhat later than I thought they would have), and after taking care of my Mom, I decided that finally it was time for me, and I wanted that time to be sooner rather than later. Too many people that I knew worked “just one more year” because they weren’t ready to leave their jobs, and they wound up too ill to enjoy their time or worse, their time had run out. So what if the pundits and politicos say you should work until you’re 70 and then collect Social Security. What about living and enjoying the world and people around you while you can?

If you can handle it financially, I highly recommend leaving the working world behind and enjoy the pleasure of sleeping in the morning until you wake on your own, without the sound of that dreaded alarm blaring in your ear. Go out and breathe in everything that you missed during your daily rat race.

The sons that drove me crazy became wonderful, caring men. As life would have it, everyone has their own schedule now, so I don’t get to see them as often as I would like. And when we do get together and they speak of health benefits and 401K’s instead of Lego’s and Transformers, I hope that one day they will be able to stop and enjoy the beauty and peace around them. I’m sure they’ll know when the time is right.
--Joanne O'Malley, Jackson, New Jersey

I typically enjoy your magazine but last night was an exception. Even though you had numerous articles that were interesting and thoughtful, I keep thinking about the piece in Notebook about the Nevada shooting range that encourages newly divorced women to imagine their ex's image on the target. In a society that has become increasingly violent, I do not understand why MORE would both perpetuate violent vengence as acceptable (certainly not what I think of as a healthy or mature response to coping with divorce) and consider this as "clued-in" for women. Too often women are the recipients of violence and I cannot help believe that responding in kind is acceptable to the mission of MORE.

Thank you for what is otherwise a truly wonderful publication.
--Kay Baetsen

I have been a subscriber to your magazine for over 10 years and I love it! I have never written to an editor in my life but I just thought this might catch your attention.

First Published March 27, 2012

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04.22.2012

"Broke but no Broken" / May 2012
Upon reading Corbyn Hightower's piece lamenting her family's loss of a five figure per month income, I have to say I'm dismayed, for both her and for all of us.
Ten years ago as I recovered from illness, my daughter and I lived on a fixed SSI income of $500 per month. We had no television, could not afford to eat outside of our kitchen, but subsidized housing make it possible for us to live in a not-so-pretty, but safe neighborhood and afford the use of public transit.
Four years later and recovered, I was able to secure a better job, move to a larger apartment in a very nice neighborhood where we could have afforded to own a car, but instead opted to keep our lifestyle simple and use transit and a car sharing option available to us. We lived very well on $2,000 a month and counted ourselves fortunate and happy.
Two years ago a very close friend went through a job loss similar to Ms. Hightowers and lamented that she could no longer maintain a $5,000 per month lifestyle as a single person.
I do not understand why Americans feel they have a right to complain so loudly about the loss of decadent, excessive lifestyles while others live with hunger and want, or simply find contentment with just enough. Perhaps the economic losses some of us are experiencing now are destiny teaching us a valuable less that may result in actual happiness that is earned, not purchased.


Going back over some back issues I discovered I did not read the article Hillary's Secret Weapon. Not only did I see Hillary in a new light, I discovered a new writer. I like Lisa DePaul's style of writing. I hope to be reading more of her articles from here on out in your magazine. Please pass this on that to her as well. Thank you.
Marcia Lobby Lee

FWDSA 04.13.2012

I will keep this months issue because of the Making Time for What Matters. The articles by the four women are good to go back to on a regular basis. My favorite line was, "This is a silly way to spend a lovely life."

Susannah bishop04.07.2012

I have never written to a magazine before, but as I finished reading the story of Hillary Clinton I have to comment. What an outstanding story about our Secretary of State! Not only did it capture what Ms Clinton is trying to do for women's rights, and how hard she works for this cause, but also it captured the essence of the person she is. How refreshing to read such a positive article. Thank you More magazine for showing us so much More about Hillary than we ever knew.

Sharon DeLay03.31.2012

I'm a huge fan of your magazine, but lately it seems like I'm reading Glamour, not a magazine targeted to women my age. Julianna Margulies is lovely, but to put her on the cover over Hillary Clinton? I simply can't wrap my mind around that particular decision. When you think of substance, who could be more substantive than Hillary Clinton? Bad choice, More!

Judith Ruderman03.28.2012

I just finished Barbara Graham's magnificent memoir in the April issue of More and wanted to write in appreciation. The essay was so beautifully written, which in and of itself is a gift; but in addition, the subject was so sensitively handled. I suspect that I related intimately to the essay because I moved my difficult mother near me for five years before she died. She was not elegant or wealthy, like Ms. Graham's mother, but she took great pains with her appearance and we had our many years of a difficult relationship. It is 9 years since she passed away, and I think of her all the time, with affection and, yes, with love.
Thank you so much for such a moving memoir,
Judith Ruderman
Durham NC


Over 15 years ago, as a mother of two young boys, I remember the routine of meeting and striking up casual conversations with other mothers in our Danforth-area schoolyard as we waited for our children to finish their activities and meander their way home with us. There was a mother I particularly remember, for her smile, her style, her smarts, and for her beautiful daughter, who had Down Syndrome. I remember being inspired by her and thinking, “Wow – there’s someone who’s really got it together. She’s a successful writer who works at home, and a mother who is therefore available to tend to her daughter and give her the support she needs, and it’s obviously all working – I have never seen her, or her daughter, without smiles on their faces.”
While we moved from the neighbourhood many years ago, I was always excited to come across Madeleine Greey’s published articles from time to time, and was especially thrilled to hear that her daughter – who was in my son’s elementary classes – achieved success as an actress.
While Madeleine would never remember me, I continued to feel that I knew her somewhat, and that’s why it shocked and saddened me so much to read her article on her husband’s passing.
I’d like to pass my deepest condolences onto you and your family, Madeleine, and hope that your strength and positive attitude help smooth your road.
Liina Kerk-Tedesco

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