We Hear You! Letters from Our April 2012 Issue

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Here is the deal: Most gals of a certain age have exchanged their rocking chairs for dancing shoes, and even at this age, we have reinvented ourselves. Many of us have found love again and enjoy fulfilling relationships. And can you believe that we even have sex!

There is no expiration date on life as you subtlely suggest in your magazine. What you are conveying is that at 70 we no longer care how we look or dress. Well, come to the North Fork of Long Island and meet us!

We 70-year-old gals may be over the proverbial hill, but guess what ? We are running down the other side while gals half our age are huffing and puffing trying to get up the hill.
Shame on you!
—Celia L. Iannelli, Long Island

When I first subscribed to your magazine, I was excited to find female-targeted publication that recognizes the existence and vitality of women over 40. Generally, I enjoy each issue, but the April 2012 publication actually angered me enough to write.

Your cover verbiage and photo certainly do emphasize the “style” of your masthead . . . attention-getter subjects such as anti-aging, fashion, living rich, burning calories and so forth, along with yet another magazine flaunting a photo of a popular actress.

But no mention of the lengthy article buried on page 102 about Secretary of State Hillary Clinton, which your writer even acknowledges as “(having) topped the Gallup Poll as the most admired woman in the world—for the 10th year in a row.”

C'mon! Women of style AND substance will buy a magazine that features a dynamic, powerful woman on the cover, even if she’s not an actress! Burying that article about Mrs. Clinton without even a cover mention, let alone a photo, is an affront to her and all of us who seek the “substance” in a publication you purport to have!
—Linda Davis, Inkom, ID

Re “Making Time for What Matters”: I have to say those four stories sent me soaring. I could relate to each one of them. Being a widow for over 20 years, living by the alarm clock, struggling to take time to slow down, and even adjusting to the fading sexual needs of my 75-year-old companion, I can see that each story touches a different time in my life. My children are grown, I still live alone (most of the time) and have cut back to part-time work. This gives me time to pursue my passion: painting and traveling with my friend. How wonderful to be able to look at some of these situations from a different perspective and realize that you can make lemonade out of lemons, no matter what time in your life.

Thank you for this absolutely wonderful issue, which is one of the best I’ve enjoyed.
—Pat Cooke

Just as I was prepared to allow my subscription to lapse, your April 2012 edition arrived. With the exception of the “beauty advice,” I read this one from cover to cover and for the first time recommended it to my mother, then took my copy to my future mother-in-law. We are completely different women (engineer, nurse practitioner, firefighter) but unanimous in our appreciation of the content from “Am I a Good Mother?” all the way through to the memoir “The Caregiver Chronicles.” We felt included, in this issue, in that the things of importance in our lives mattered to other women as well. The article on Ms. Clinton was brilliant and opened my eyes to a different woman, to be admired rather than loathed. With that said, my subscription is renewed, and each of my “moms” has a gift subscription as well, although I would prefer to savor the time reading with the two great women in my life. By far your best issue yet! Keep up the good work!
—Kim, Altus, OK

Let me begin by saying I am not your typical More reader: I am a 62-year-old male. Your magazine has much of interest to anyone over 40, male or female, and I enjoy reading it every month (except for the “Beautybook” section).

Some comments about the April issue:

I liked Lucy Liu’s comment about people not being able to take a compliment: “They could just say, ‘Thank you.’ ”

First Published March 27, 2012

Share Your Thoughts!



"Broke but no Broken" / May 2012
Upon reading Corbyn Hightower's piece lamenting her family's loss of a five figure per month income, I have to say I'm dismayed, for both her and for all of us.
Ten years ago as I recovered from illness, my daughter and I lived on a fixed SSI income of $500 per month. We had no television, could not afford to eat outside of our kitchen, but subsidized housing make it possible for us to live in a not-so-pretty, but safe neighborhood and afford the use of public transit.
Four years later and recovered, I was able to secure a better job, move to a larger apartment in a very nice neighborhood where we could have afforded to own a car, but instead opted to keep our lifestyle simple and use transit and a car sharing option available to us. We lived very well on $2,000 a month and counted ourselves fortunate and happy.
Two years ago a very close friend went through a job loss similar to Ms. Hightowers and lamented that she could no longer maintain a $5,000 per month lifestyle as a single person.
I do not understand why Americans feel they have a right to complain so loudly about the loss of decadent, excessive lifestyles while others live with hunger and want, or simply find contentment with just enough. Perhaps the economic losses some of us are experiencing now are destiny teaching us a valuable less that may result in actual happiness that is earned, not purchased.

Going back over some back issues I discovered I did not read the article Hillary's Secret Weapon. Not only did I see Hillary in a new light, I discovered a new writer. I like Lisa DePaul's style of writing. I hope to be reading more of her articles from here on out in your magazine. Please pass this on that to her as well. Thank you.
Marcia Lobby Lee

FWDSA 04.13.2012

I will keep this months issue because of the Making Time for What Matters. The articles by the four women are good to go back to on a regular basis. My favorite line was, "This is a silly way to spend a lovely life."

Susannah bishop04.07.2012

I have never written to a magazine before, but as I finished reading the story of Hillary Clinton I have to comment. What an outstanding story about our Secretary of State! Not only did it capture what Ms Clinton is trying to do for women's rights, and how hard she works for this cause, but also it captured the essence of the person she is. How refreshing to read such a positive article. Thank you More magazine for showing us so much More about Hillary than we ever knew.

Sharon DeLay03.31.2012

I'm a huge fan of your magazine, but lately it seems like I'm reading Glamour, not a magazine targeted to women my age. Julianna Margulies is lovely, but to put her on the cover over Hillary Clinton? I simply can't wrap my mind around that particular decision. When you think of substance, who could be more substantive than Hillary Clinton? Bad choice, More!

Judith Ruderman03.28.2012

I just finished Barbara Graham's magnificent memoir in the April issue of More and wanted to write in appreciation. The essay was so beautifully written, which in and of itself is a gift; but in addition, the subject was so sensitively handled. I suspect that I related intimately to the essay because I moved my difficult mother near me for five years before she died. She was not elegant or wealthy, like Ms. Graham's mother, but she took great pains with her appearance and we had our many years of a difficult relationship. It is 9 years since she passed away, and I think of her all the time, with affection and, yes, with love.
Thank you so much for such a moving memoir,
Judith Ruderman
Durham NC

Over 15 years ago, as a mother of two young boys, I remember the routine of meeting and striking up casual conversations with other mothers in our Danforth-area schoolyard as we waited for our children to finish their activities and meander their way home with us. There was a mother I particularly remember, for her smile, her style, her smarts, and for her beautiful daughter, who had Down Syndrome. I remember being inspired by her and thinking, “Wow – there’s someone who’s really got it together. She’s a successful writer who works at home, and a mother who is therefore available to tend to her daughter and give her the support she needs, and it’s obviously all working – I have never seen her, or her daughter, without smiles on their faces.”
While we moved from the neighbourhood many years ago, I was always excited to come across Madeleine Greey’s published articles from time to time, and was especially thrilled to hear that her daughter – who was in my son’s elementary classes – achieved success as an actress.
While Madeleine would never remember me, I continued to feel that I knew her somewhat, and that’s why it shocked and saddened me so much to read her article on her husband’s passing.
I’d like to pass my deepest condolences onto you and your family, Madeleine, and hope that your strength and positive attitude help smooth your road.
Liina Kerk-Tedesco

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