Nice that you included a brief item about South Carolina governor Nikki Haley. I am a liberal (on most issues), but as the mainstream media are always being accused of having an anti-conservative bias, it is good to see something that disproves this.
“Second Acts” is always one of my favorite features. I share the joy these women feel at discovering something that brings them happiness in midlife. I have been fortunate in finding something that I enjoy doing—customer service for a government agency—and in getting to work with a mostly female staff (the manager and all of the supervisors are women) who are smart and nice people to have as coworkers.
Regarding “Was I a Good Mother?,” the question I have to ask is (of course!) “Was I a Good Father?” Well, Lesley, my bright and beautiful daughter (Jessica) died of cancer in 2010 at the age of 25. I believe she would have given me a passing grade except I know she wished I had not had almost nonstop arguments with her mother about spending. Jessica’s mother (Carol) died in February 2010, just eight months before Jessica. J told me that she could not cry when her mother passed because she did not have a single happy memory of her. Sad; I wish it weren’t so, but it was true.
The article about Julianna Margulies was typical of More’s celebrity profiles: interesting and informative. Margulies seems to be a very likable person.
As a widower who lost a child, I now live alone as does Jenny Allen (“The Richness of Empty Evenings”), and I too have no reason to go home after work or on Saturday afternoons after I have had lunch at the mall and have been to the library. “And now I had a minute. I had many minutes, entire evenings of minutes.” It IS a kind of gift, but in my case a bittersweet one. I enjoyed the essays in “Making Time for What Matters”; sweet and thoughtful, all of them.
This is getting to be way too long! Something that comes with having so much time. Let me conclude by saying that I liked the article on Hillary Clinton. I have long admired her intelligence and her commitment to trying to make the world a better place, especially for women and children, but ultimately for us all.
You are doing a good job, Lesley, and you can be proud of your magazine.
—Roger Creps, Cleveland, OH
Just wanted to say how much I enjoyed the photo on page 42 (“The 13 Best Hair Tips You'll Ever Read,” March). I laughed out loud—brilliant!
—Susan Willats, Felton, CA
I have enjoyed your letters from the editor in the past. I was taken a back by this one, though. For a magazine aimed at women over 40, I was surprised to see you write, “Then all at once our children allow us to pee alone.” It sounded crass, unsophisticated and mostly juvenile. I think we would have gotten the point if you had said “. . . allow us to be in the bathroom alone.” The language of our culture has been on a slippery slope for a long time now, and I’m not sure your comment helped any.
Glad you have taken time to “smell the flowers” and have discovered gardening
and witnessing the hibiscus . . . I usually count birds on the wing or on the telephone wire on my way to work . . . am a “birder.”
—Charlotte Chickering, Sunshine State