It seems you have a happy ending with your enemy. I am waiting for mine. I can’t imagine what will bring that on, however. Maybe if my father dies before she does, we’ll connect at the funeral. But that would mean she’d have to contact me first to let me know he’s passed away. That’s a really bit IF.
Keep up the great work!
“Where Did Our Friendship Go Wrong?” by Jacquelyn Mitchard was a godsend! I lost a friendship of over 15 years and felt like I’d been though all the stages of grief—shock, anger and sadness. The circumstances behind our rift sound similar to Ms. Mitchard’s; a few comments, misunderstandings, a fight, apologies and a slow drift toward nothing. I had thought I was doing OK and had made peace with this until my old friend recently had a baby. The wish to be there on this momentous event was made all the more painful by updates on Facebook. I was no longer one of the first people in on everything. Other women I had never heard of knew more about her life and family than I did. Our mutual friend had so many exciting updates and stories, which added to the sadness and sense of missing out. My daughter is growing up without knowing her or her daughters, and she is missing the milestones of my little one’s life. I felt angry all over again that one fight could ruin such a long-term friendship. Now, with this article, time and reflection, I am also coming into acceptance. Reading this story made me feel less alone and really cherish the friendships I still have. My thanks to Ms. Mitchard for sharing this painful episode and to More for publishing it. Hopefully, this will encourage more women to cherish what they have and be more supportive and forgiving of each other as well.
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I receive More in print and online. Something I would love to see: haircuts for women who wear glasses. Your most recent haircuts for women in their 30s, 40s, 50s and 60s are great. But when I see lots of layers and soft bangs across the face and brow, I realize that won’t work. So many women wear glasses, if only for reading. How about featuring those haircuts for the ages with women who wear glasses? It would make it so real. Thanks for listening.
I love your magazine. I especially enjoy that More is targeted to me: no silly dating quizzes or unreasonably short skirts. You seem to really know your demographics. Except in the finance article “Make Earning—and Spending—Fun!” in the July/August issue.
I was wary about trusting the author, who opened the column by bragging about her Harvard MBA and seven-figure income, but I kept reading because she claimed to “totally get it” (p. 52). But then I encountered the example of whether to buy a $500 coat based on $100,000 after-tax earnings. Seriously?! She just told us she speaks to women about financial management, but she seems to be unaware that the average annual salary for American women (from the 2010 census) is $34,111! Using Ms. Thakor’s instructions and assuming the 25 percent tax bracket, the average American is earning $25,500 after taxes for 2,000 hours worked, which equals take-home earnings of $12.75 per hour. Now the new coat is worth more than 39 hours of “slogging it out at the office”—nearly an entire week’s work. I doubt the people to whom Ms. Thakor speaks—or the other readers of your magazine—are seriously considering spending a quarter of their monthly pay on a new coat.
OK, so I personally make more than the average American women, and my household is fortunate to earn more than the median household income. But I’m still in touch with the average middle-class American, a quality sorely missing among some of our political and business leaders—and this article’s author. Surely your editors didn’t mean to pour salt on the economic wound of your readers? Because that coat example sure stung. Thanks for hearing my point of view!
--Kate Williams, Clemson, SC