It is rare that a piece of writing will touch me as did “Where Did Our Friendship Go Wrong?” by Jacquelyn Mitchard. I read every word two—maybe three—times wondering how Ms. Mitchard got into my head so eloquently and thoroughly. Or how she could state her case with such brutal honesty. Too bad we don't have time and space to have a group who could sit down with her and have tea and conversation.
Of course I have ordered her book. She has rocked me with her article. I am in my early seventies and have lost a friend much the same as she. Actually more than once. Damn it!
Just finished your excellent article on lost friendship (“Where Did Our Friendship Go Wrong?”). I suffered a similar loss, now going on 18 years. The pain was enormous, and I spent many a day weeping.You really hit the emotions experienced on the mark. It took me at least 10 years to recognize not only that the experience made me a better friend but also that I grew in ways I never could have imagined had I remained tethered to my "other half." It takes distance (years) to realize the personal benefits gleaned from such pain, but they will surface.
I know this article will resonate with many other readers, women who feel and give deeply. Thank you for giving me a vehicle to reflect on one of my life's lessons.
Your recent article on perimenopause and menopause left me without any information relevant to ME! Please don't be offended. After reading dozens of such articles in magazines and online on the subject, I have yet to find anything that describes my situation. I didn't think it was at all unusual until recently. I am 52 years old and have been on the Pill since I was 16. I stopped taking the Pill long enough to have my two children and went back after each one was born. I am still taking the same Pill! I have not experienced the signs of menopause. I assume that my Pill is working as a form of hormone replacement. When I have discussed this with my longtime OB/GYN, we agree that a "change" is not necessary at this time. I have friends who have gone off the Pill to see where they are in the menopause cycle. I have no Sherlock Holmes in my soul; I really don't feel the need to find out about something that is not a problem for me. Why would I? Let's see, maybe I can still become pregnant—not interested. Maybe I can start to experience all the symptoms that I have been reading about—not interested. I feel that I am growing old at the same pace as my friends of the same age but without the sweats and crying! Am I the only one handling menopause by staying on the Pill? I would love to know. Thanks for being there for our very special generation of women.
I was very moved by your July/August editorial about your stepmother. It was so personal, and it really made me stop and think about the relationships in my life and reminded me to always work on not judging others. It is pieces like this that make More magazine unique. It is written for intelligent and curious women. Thank you for sharing.
I'm 51 and I love More! I especially like the success stories: reinvention, survival, weight loss (or wait—are they all the same?).
I haven't yet figured out where I'm going, but I love that More shows me others who have found their way. Great role models and the fact that many found success show me that maybe I can do it, too!
One comment on the recent article about weight loss (“A Better Body . . . Than at 20”): Showing the women's weight without sharing their height is kind of like giving latitude without longitude: 190 lb. at 5'8" is a lot different than at 5'1". Please keep this in mind for future articles on weight loss.
--Sharon Smith, Allison Park, Pennsylvania