I just picked up your July/August issue of MORE. I had a couple of ah-ha moments when I read it. The article on Dawn Trudeau and how she did not have a college degree and achieved sooo much! Well, I was on the Woe Is Me wagon about not finishing mine! We just moved to Wisconsin from Michigan, and I was in panic mode because I’d left a job I loved and now with no degree I am having a hard time finding a job. This a.m. I applied for a job that intimidated me because the women there all have MBAs! Anyway, we will see what happens with that.
Second, your own personal story about your ex-stepmother made me think about my own past. When you are young, there is so much more to a story then you will ever know . . . or maybe don’t want to know! My mother was ill with emotional issues my whole life. She was in and out of mental hospitals, and it seems every Christmas was spent trudging to the mental hospital with gifts for my mom. My mom’s family never went to see her, and all I knew was my dad did not like them. They did show up at her funeral when I was 23, but I snubbed them. I believed what I saw as a child and what I heard from my dad.
A few years ago, my brother died. Out of the blue a cousin showed up at the funeral. He told stories about my mom when she was young with his mom. It was great hearing things you never knew about her side of the family. I tried to find information on Ancestry.com and found a young girl whose grandfather was my mother’s brother. He was still alive, and she said he would love to meet me. When I mentioned my mother’s name, she named everyone else in the family but said she had never heard of my mother. Well, since her grandfather never mentioned her, that was very strange to hear. I felt that I would betray my father by meeting them. Would I like them, and what if I did? So many questions! Why did they not mention my mother?
I decided against the meeting and never wrote to them again. I decided on Facebook to search again years later. I found that same uncle’s stepdaughter. Her mother sent me a package of photos, letters all from my mother’s family. It was a treasure trove. I had letters from my mother’s brother who died in the war and photos of them I’d never seen. I will still never know what separated our families, and maybe it’s better that way. I guess everybody has a story and will live with the feelings those conjure up. I guess I will just have to live with mine and still wonder why?
I think you are missing the boat! Life doesn't stop at 60, 70, 80 or even 90. With everyone living longer, we need more input and style for the senior citizens. After all, we are very much alive and still active. BUT we need sleeves on our outfits at least to the elbow and collars for our scrawny necks, and regretfully, we can't wear stiletto heels or miniskirts anymore. I'm 95 and live in an area surrounded by senior citizen communities. We need a with-it guide or magazine. So please—some sharp looks for the over-60 group!
What’s with the fine print in the “Now!” section at the beginning of the magazine? Don’t you know your target audience already needs reading glasses just for regular-size print? In order to read “Now!” I need glasses for my glasses. Wise up!
--Michelle Smith, Ft. Lauderdale, FL
The above letter was written by my Aunt Bee—feisty and sharp, and very much in tune with today's fashion. She enjoys More (although we joke that she should be getting two copies each month as it claims to be for women over 40). Perhaps you could use another fashion consultant. Retired now, she was the proprietor of an upscale women's boutique for more than 40 years and is still dressing me! (I'm 60.)
Today I was reading comments from your readers and noticed that many of them feel the same way that I do. I subscribed to More at one time, but I soon realized that much of the content did not interest me at this stage of my life. I don’t particularly care to read about politics or compare myself with the younger faces that you put on the covers. I also believe that there should be some humor in your magazine, which was also mentioned. Life can be comical!!