We Hear You! Letters from Our May 2012 Issue

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Perhaps Anne-Christine Strugnell would have had an easier time with her stepdaughter if she had demonstrated an ounce of compassion, empathy or even interest in Cassie. Her approach to stepparenting appears to be modeled on the wicked stepmother in Cinderella. An 11-year-old girl is looking for a role model, not a cold, judgmental, selfish woman who is poised to complain about everything. Possibly, if Strugnell ever thought of anyone other than herself and how put upon she was by Cassie’s presence, she might have been able to appreciate Cassie. Including Cassie in her walks with the dog instead of trying to escape from the child would have been an easy start.
--Marybeth Kass

I thought that Anne-Christine Strugnell was far more tolerant than I could have been in the same situation (“Stepdog”), and I give her credit. However, I detected yet another significant message in her story: the importance of teaching children responsibility for their pets. Far too often, adults permit youngsters to acquire animals that become unfortunate victims of neglect.

It's a shame that young Cassie didn't exhibit the same compassion toward her dog, Roxy, that she herself received from Ms. Strugnell. It's up to us, the adults and role models, to teach future generations about relationships and caring about others—whether they be humans or the innocent animal beings that depend on us.

Good work, More, for including thought-provoking articles such as this one.
--Annoula Wylderich

Love, Love, Love, your "letter from the editor" article in the May 2012 issue. So well said . . . Thank you.
--Renee Jones

Upon finishing the Anna Quindlen piece, I said (to myself), Bravo. Lesley, we may never achieve total acceptance on aging, but the day your magazine has the courage to put Anna Quindlen on the cover and not Chelsea Handler (really? Chelsea Handler?), we'll all be a bit closer.
--L. Fontana

Dear Ms. Seymour:

It struck me as ironic that in the middle of an article celebrating women's courage ("The Fierce List"), you praise actress Laura Dern by saying she has balls. Women don't have balls—and we don't need them. Implying, even tongue-in-cheek, that courage comes from body parts that only men are born with sends the message that women aren't inherently brave. If you want to use a visceral term, why not "guts"? It's punchy and gender free. (And don't get me started on women telling other women to "grow a pair" or "man up"!) Thanks very much for listening.
--Eleanor McNamara

Hi, Lesley,

Love MORE!!! I’m sorry I tried to submit this at more.com/aging but couldn't figure it out. My thoughts about wrinkles and sunspots do not match the measures I take to diminish them. When I see a woman my age (45) or older who has clearly had no work done, I immediately like her. Her wrinkles actually make her more beautiful for all the obvious reasons: her lack of vanity, her own self-worth, etc., but also because a few wrinkles at 45 look better on your face than none at all.

I was just visiting my mom in Alabama who is now 80, and she is the most beautiful woman I have yet to meet. I know she's my mom, but she's obviously been a great one for me to feel this way. I can proudly say that my mom has never had any work done, not even a facial. More astonishing is that growing up and throughout my entire life, I have never heard my mom complain about aging or anything else, for that matter. My mom has always been content.

So I question myself, why do I pay astronomical amounts of money to erase a few lines between my eyes? Sadly and ashamedly, I think the shallow society we live in (me being one) has actually had more influence on me than the woman I hold in highest esteem, until now!!!!

I'm hoping to turn over a new leaf and a new face to the world. I want my daughter to remember me content.

Side note: My dad also tells my mom every day that she is the smartest, sexiest and most beautiful woman in the world. Could that be the secret???

Thank you,
--Rebecca

First Published April 25, 2012

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Jess0625 07.07.2012

I wanted to respond to Lesley Jane Seymour's letter from the Editor about The contradictions of aging. I think that since there is a huge number of women aging that the Make up Community needs to stand and take notice. There are a number of Companies making exceptional aging products for our beautiful over 50 faces and my main gripe is that they only use 20 year olds in all of the on air and print adds. I know that "youth sells". But in this case I believe that the large population of women would appreciate seeing someone like us, the over 50 wonders, on TV and in adds. Proper skin care and makeup make such a wonderful difference in looking our best in our over 50 faces, I get frustrated that no believes that someone my age (51) can sell their products, I mean seriously it takes nothing to make a 20 something look beautiful, so imagine if women saw me in a before and after photo, trust me they work and I do look 10 times better with them on than I do without them, so those products would fly off the shelf and isn't what they want after all? Does anyone know anyone at these companies that I could pitch this idea too?

Sally 06.09.2012

Loved the memoir by Anna Quindlen, "Aging Gratefully". This will be one for the "pro" section of my More list of favorites. Must buy the book and share with all my "young" friends. Sally Jayes


I AM VERY UPSET ABOUT THE CHOICES OF PRIDE OF LIONESS. WHAT HAS ANN ROMNEY DONE TO DESERVE A PLACE ON THIS LIST AND MICHELLE OBAMA BE OMITTED. I FEEL I CAN NOT LONGER SUPPORT THIS MAGAZINE IF BLATANT POLITICS ARE PART OF SELECTION,LIKE THIS. PLEASE REFUND WHAT MONEY I HAVE LEFT ON MY SUBSCRIPTION AND CLOSE MY ACCOUNT.

04.25.2012

Thank you for Anna Quindlen's article "Aging Gratefully" Wonderful!
How can I get a digital copy of this article?
MORE is my favorite magazine. You always seem to have at least one article with substance. Thanks!

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