14 Celebrities Who Spoke Out About The Pain Of Miscarriage
by Devan McGuinness
Miscarriage is said to effect 1 out of 4 or 5 pregnancies, and even the most famous aren’t shielded from the pain and grief left from losing a baby. In an effort to break the stigma and increase the support, these 14 celebrities have been open about their loss and grief.
In her 2013 HBO documentary, Beyoncé opened up about her miscarriage experience. “About two years ago, I was pregnant for the first time and I heard the heartbeat, which was the most beautiful music I ever heard in my life. I picked out names, I envisioned what my child would look like… I was feeling very maternal. I flew back to New York to get my check up—and no heartbeat. Literally the week before I went to the doctor, everything was fine, but there was no heartbeat. I went into the studio and wrote the saddest song I’ve ever written in my life. It was the best form of therapy for me.”
The former Friends star has been open about experiencing multiple miscarriages, telling People, “I get pregnant pretty easily, but I have a hard time keeping them.”
The singer was talking about why she was hesitant to share her pregnancy news and she revealed she had experienced loss. “I didn’t want to talk about it because I was just really nervous, and I have had a miscarriage before,” she said to Ellen DeGeneres.
Miscarriage can happen even after you’ve welcomed children and Gwyneth Paltrow knows that feeling. “I had a really bad experience when I was pregnant with my third,” the actress revealed. “It didn’t work out and I nearly died. So I am like, ‘Are we good here or should we go back and try again?'”
The actor and his wife struggled for a long time with getting pregnant and talked openly about how it can affect a marriage. “It is a difficult time,” he told Katie Couric during an interview. “The miscarriage thing—apparently it happens to one in three pregnancies—but it’s very, very rarely talked about. It’s almost secretive. But it’s a good thing to talk about. It’s more common and it’s tough, there’s a grieving process you have to go through.”
The singer has experienced sadness that no one should feel. First, she experienced a miscarriage and then she revealed she wrote her song “Something’s Not Right” to honor her son, who was stillborn. “It was a really long battle, and I think that kind of thing changes a person,” Allen said.
“From the minute Tom and I were married, I wanted to have babies,” the actress said in an interview with Vanity Fair. “And we lost a baby early on, so that was really very traumatic. And that’s when we would adopt Bella.”
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Susan Sarandon’s daughter has been very open about her loss that she suffered when she was 9-weeks pregnant and hopes her openness helps others. “I am sharing in the hopes that we can be a light for people going through similar circumstances, and to remind myself and others that there is no shame in voicing our heartbreaks and allowing others to comfort us,” she wrote on her blog.
The mom of three discussed the pain of miscarriage and infertility before she welcomed her twins. The star welcomed her twins via IVF, but before that she had a miscarriage. “I never gave up,” she said. “But I can tell you that it was physically and emotionally exhausting.”
The Facebook founder and his wife, pediatrician Dr. Priscilla Chan shared the news last July that they were expecting a baby and in the same announcement, they opened the discussion on miscarriage, sharing they had been through three. “It’s a lonely experience,” the 31-year-old dad-to-be wrote. “Most people don’t discuss miscarriages because you worry your problems will distance you or reflect upon you—as if you’re defective or did something to cause this. So you struggle on your own.”
Before the singer welcomed her twins with ex-husband Nick Cannon, she revealed to Access Hollywood that they had a miscarriage. “It kind of shook us both and took us to a place that was really dark and difficult,” she said.
In 2010, the E! star shared with People that she had a miscarriage when she was 9 weeks pregnant and encouraged others that talking about it is not shameful. “Hopefully we can help people understand that there’s nothing to be ashamed of,” she said. “It’s such a taboo subject, but it’s a very common problem.”
The TV host got very candid on The Talk, sharing how miscarriage made her feel and it’s something many others can relate to. “I felt more like a failure than I’d felt in a very long time,” she said. “We actually [hadn’t] been trying that long. I don’t know that I took it as seriously as I should have because it happened so fast. But then when I heard the doctor say there was no heartbeat it was like bam, like a knife through the heart.”
During filming in an OWN docuseries, the actress opened up about her loss and why she needed some space. “If I know I’m not capable of being on, that’s why I would say I couldn’t film today. No one knows this… I had a miscarriage for those two weeks that I took off… I couldn’t move. I was sick,” she said. “And mentally that messes with you.”