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Actress Amber Tamblyn Shares Tragic Personal Story After Donald Trump Condones Sexual Assault On Video

Women everywhere are outraged at the presidential candidate's leaked remarks, and thousands have taken to social media to share their own personal stories via the #NotOkay hashtag.

If you've been living under a rock all weekend, you might have missed the shocking video from 2005 that The Washington Post revealed on Friday. The clip is a vulgar recording of 2016 Republican presidential candidate Donald Trump condoning — and some say, practically bragging about — using his celebrity status to kiss, grope and try to have sex with women without their permission, which equates to sexual assault.

While most people with any type of conscience and/or soul were absolutely (and rightfully) revolted by Donald Trump's comments, 33-year-old actress Amber Tamblyn bravely took action and went to Instagram to share her own heartbreaking story on the topic.

 

I need to tell you a story. With the love and support of my husband, I've decided to share it publicly. A very long time ago I ended a long emotionally and physically abusive relationship with a man I had been with for some time. One night I was at a show with a couple girlfriends in Hollywood, listening to a DJ we all loved. I knew there was a chance my ex could show up, but I felt protected with my girls around me. Without going into all the of the details, I will tell you that my ex did show up, and came up to me in the crowd. He's a big guy, taller than me. The minute he saw me, he picked me up with one hand by my hair and with his other hand, he grabbed me under my skirt by my vagina— my pussy?— and lifted me up off the floor, literally, and carried me, like something he owned, like a piece of trash, out of the club. His fingers were practically inside of me, his other hand wrapped tightly around my hair. I screamed and kicked and cried. He carried me this way, suspended by his hands, all the way across the room, pushing past people until he got to the front door. My friends ran after him, trying to stop him. We got to the front door and I thank God his brothers were also there and intervened. In the scuffle he grabbed at my clothes, trying to hold onto me, screaming at me, and inadvertently ripped off my grandmother’s necklace, which I was wearing. The rest of this night is a blur I do not remember. How I got out to the car. How I got away from him that night. I never returned for my necklace either. That part of my body, which the current Presidential Nominee of the United States Donald Trump recently described as something he’d like to grab a woman by, was bruised from my ex-boyfriend's violence for at least the next week. I had a hard time wearing jeans. I couldn’t sleep without a pillow between my legs to create space. To this day I remember that moment. I remember the shame. I am afraid my mom will read this post. I'm even more afraid that my father could ever know this story. That it would break his heart. I couldn't take that. But you understand, don't you? I needed to tell a story. Enjoy the debates tonight.

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Her powerful caption reads:

"I need to tell you a story. With the love and support of my husband, I've decided to share it publicly. A very long time ago I ended a long emotionally and physically abusive relationship with a man I had been with for some time. One night I was at a show with a couple girlfriends In Hollywood, listening to a DJ we all loved. I knew there was a chance my ex could show up, but I felt protected with my girls around me. Without going into all the of the details, I will tell you that my ex did show up, and came up to me in the crowd. He's a big guy, taller than me. The minute he saw me, he picked me up with one hand by my hair and with his other hand, he grabbed me under my skirt by my vagina—my pussy?—and lifted me up off the floor, literally, and carried me like something he owned, like a piece of trash, out of the club. His fingers were practically inside of me, his other hand wrapped tightly around my hair. I screamed and kicked and cried. He carried me this way, suspended by his hands, all the way across the room, pushing past people until he got to the front door. My friends ran after him, trying to stop him. We got to the front door and I think God his brothers were also there and intervened. In the scuffle, he grabbed at my clothes, trying to hold onto me, screaming at me, and inadvertently ripped off my grandmother's necklace, which I was wearing.

The rest of this night is a blur I do not remember. How I got out to the car. How I got away from him that night. I never returned for my necklace either. That part of my body, which the current Presidential Nominee of the United States Donald Trump recently described as something he'd like to grab a woman by, was bruised from my ex-boyfriend's violence for at least the next week. I had a hard time wearing jeans. I couldn't sleep without a pillow between my legs to create space.

To this day I remember that moment. I remember the shame. I am afraid my mom will read this post. I'm even more afraid that my father could ever know this story. That it would break his heart. I couldn't take that. But you understand, don't you? I needed to tell a story. Enjoy the debates tonight."

While the Joan of Arcadia actress' story is incredibly painful to hear, she is sadly not alone in this kind of experience — not by a long shot.

According to the National Sex Offender Public Website, only about 30 percent of sexual assault cases are actually reported to authorities. However, it's still recorded that an estimated one in four girls and one in six boys are sexually assaulted before age 18. As a whole population, that translates to someone being assaulted every two minutes.

Canadian author Kelly Oxford wanted to bring awareness to the real and troubling issue of sexual assault when she invited her Twitter followers to talk about times they had been victims of the crime with the #NotOkay hashtag.

Fourteen hours and 9.7 million impressions later, the Twitter-sphere is proving that this heinous crime is absolutely not something to brag about.

While we don't feel these stories are ours to share with the world, we encourage readers to take a look at Oxford's Twitter feed for themselves. They are heartbreaking to read, but the stories reiterate that these actions and behaviors are not to be condoned.

The candidate released a statement in the aftermath of the video's release, in which he equates his conversation to "locker-room banter." But the fallout from supporters has continued over the weekend regardless, with senior members of the Republican party distancing themselves from Trump, while the public calls on the candidate for an apology. And we agree: Rape culture is not something that can be easily brushed off as "locker-room banter." It's real and this type of disturbing behavior affects all of us — men and women alike. It's high-time we put an end to it and held offenders like this responsible for their actions and words.

Hannah Marsh

Hannah is a Texas-born, Iowa-raised alumna of Iowa State University. When not writing trending content across several Meredith sites, she enjoys all things fitness-related, binge-watching "Whose Line is it Anyway" episodes and fully embracing her self-diagnosed peanut butter addiction.

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