Making Friends with Your Body
I feel sorry for naturally skinny girls. They never have an excuse for a dateless Friday night. They can’t blame their lack of friends on their clothing size. They don’t even get to relax at a school dance. How horrible it must be to go through life without a reason or an excuse.
Their lives are already perfect. Right? I mean they are skinny. Thinness is by far the key to a happy life. How can you possibly be happy if you aren’t a size two?
Of course not! How ridiculous does that sound? Yet how many times have you uttered the phrase, “When I lose the weight I’ll [insert what you aren’t doing now because you think you are fat].”
For me, that was a daily thought. I really believed the world would just fall into place once the weight was gone. If I looked perfect, then life would be perfect. It makes perfect sense!
Well, as a former fat girl and a current skinny minny, let me tell ya, it just ain’t true. I’ve been everything from a size four to a sixteen. My closet had more selection then your local goodwill. I used my weight as an excuse and food as a pacifier. What a cycle!
It’s not a fun place to be and it’s not an easy cycle to break. If you really want to lose weight, you first need to accept a few things.
1. You will never look like a supermodel. Supermodels don’t look like supermodels. Between airbrushing, lighting, professional hair and makeup … come on! Let’s put the Photoshopped photographs in perspective, please.
2. Your life will not drastically change if you succeed at weight loss. You will still have the same job. The same house. The same friends. Nothing will just automatically happen because you lost a few pounds.
3. Your body is your body and that’s okay! Loving yourself is hard for some of us at any size and let me tell you from experience, if you have issues, being a size four will not cure them. It took me a long time to figure that out.
So in short, what I’m trying to say is … make friends with your body. It’s the only one you got. Treating it and yourself with respect is one of the most important things you can do. Someone once told me, “Don’t put yourself down, there are plenty of people in this world that will do it for you.”