Let me start off by saying that I am completely overwhelmed by the response to my article “The World Hates a Big Girl.” It started off as a blog post born out of shopping frustration, and I wasn’t sure anyone would actually read it. I want to extend a heartfelt thank-you to the people who read it and liked it—your support means more to me than I even know how to express. Unfortunately, my article has brought on reactions that I never intended. I would like to apologize, and set the record straight.
It seems as though I’ve started World War III: The Battle Between the Dress Sizes. Some people feel that I’m discriminating against smaller women, other readers defend me. Slurs are thrown in both directions, and at the end of the day there seem to be a lot of bad feelings going around. My meaning has been taken and twisted in so many directions, it’s hard to see what the message truly is. I will tell you one thing though: it’s not about making anyone feel like they’re less than they are.
Have you ever read The Twits by Roald Dahl? I know that it’s technically children’s literature, but something he wrote in that book has been my standard of “beautiful” for most of my life:
“If a person has ugly thoughts, it begins to show on the face. And when that person has ugly thoughts every day, every week, every year, the face gets uglier and uglier until you can hardly beat to look at it.A person who has good thoughts cannot ever be ugly. You can have a wonky nose
and a crooked mouth and a double chin and stick-out teeth, but if you have good thoughts it will shine out of your face like sunbeams and you will always look lovely.”
Good thoughts, confidence, and kindness. Those are the marks of true beauty. The “sunbeams” of loveliness.
The human body, by itself, is absolutely magnificent. Everyone is so unique: fat, thin, tall, short. All the freckles and scars, the ears that stick out funny and the nose you got from your grandfather on your mother’s side. The color of your skin, eyes and hair; they’re all a part of your own personal miracle of genetics. Even the way your heart beats is uniquely your own. But without human kindness, emotion, and soul: a body is just a body. As cliché as it sounds, true beauty is on the inside.
Of course, we’re not perfect. We all get frustrated, angry, and sad. Some days, we might actually want to be mean. As we’re all very imperfect people, these days will happen, probably more than they should. I just think that we should remember that the only things that will come from these days are hurt feelings, regret, and a whole lot of ugly.
I want to apologize for making anyone feel like they’re not beautiful. You are, I promise you.
So ... just smile. Be kind, laugh, love others and love yourselves.
You look beautiful today.