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Happiness and Leadership from the Inside Out

Last week, as I paid at the counter, a manager approached us and congratulated us for our broad smiles. “You look truly happy; you have these huge smiles on your faces.”

“It’s genetic,” I responded as I glanced next to me, “My smile looks just like my dad’s.” My father proudly showed an even greater smile on his face as I said this.

“I was raised in the Philippines,” the manager said, “and my father said I should jump up and down every morning for just being alive.”

Though many people believe that outside objects or events will make them happy, happiness comes from within. The same concept holds true for leadership: you may take as many courses as you’d like, have as much training and coaching as you’d like, but if leadership doesn’t come from within, your followers will know. How? They will follow you as a leader, because they will believe you stand by what you believe. And they will be loyal to you, because they admire you and want to follow you. 

Over the summer my son has been in an intensive internship program selling books from door-to-door in another state. Aside from knowing this experience will bring him back a new man at nineteen, he has faced the need to boost his energy, force a smile even if he didn’t feel like having one and pump up his attitude in spite of doors slamming in his face, home owners ignoring him, dogs chasing—and biting him—and the realization that he may have no sales after knocking at 100 doors.

Here are some of the lessons he has learned that we can all use as we strive to bring out the best in ourselves.

1. Smile
Whether you are talking with a friend, family member, your children, your boss, your employees or someone on the phone, remember to keep a smile on your face.

2. Know thyself
If you see yourself putting too much energy on outside “sources” that “will make you happy—or not,” whether it is a new house, outfit, car, jewelry, face or body, think again. If you are not feeling well, these external gifts won’t make you any happier. Focus on finding that inside happiness first and then reward yourself.

3. Keep a positive outlook about the future
You may be experiencing  hard times but you can avoid perpetuating them. Bring about positive thoughts of how you will overcome the obstacles and keep an eye in the future.

4. Share your joy with others
Being in a great mood is infectious and is key to a happy household, workplace, and organization. Children are ready to adapt to their parents’ moods just as employees are ready to adapt to their bosses’ moods. So, as home goddess, entrepreneur or corporate warrior, your great disposition will bring out the best in others as they tune into and match your own vibration.

5. Take great care of yourself
Your integrated health and wellness in the physical, emotional, intellectual, spiritual and social dimensions are key to experience the ultimate power of wellbeing.

By Dr. Gabriela Cora for w2wlink