Are Homeschooled Students Prepared to Deal with Real Life Issues?
Question from Reader:
I have always wondered what it is like for homeschooled people when they enter the adult world, where bullying, popularity, drugs, etc.are still a factor. Are they better or worse prepared to deal with issues like sexual harassment, toxic relationships, etc.
First of all, all homeschoolers are not alike. We don’t live in a little bubble somewhere isolating our kids from the real world for fear of contamination. There’s really no such thing as your typical homeschooler but here’s how we did it.
When I first started homeschooling, I asked myself what are things that will enable my children to learn anything and do anything they want to do. My answer was self-discipline and how to read and follow directions. If you have those two things, I believe you can conquer anything.
Self discipline definition from Wikipedia:
“Self-discipline refers to the training that one gives one’s self to accomplish a certain task or to adopt a particular pattern of behavior, even though one would really rather be doing something else. For example, denying oneself of an extravagant pleasure in order to accomplish a more demanding charitable deed. Thus, self-discipline is the assertion of willpower over more base desires, and is usually understood to be a synonym of ‘self control.’ Self-discipline is to some extent a substitute for motivation, when one uses reason to determine a best course of action that opposes one’s desires.
That definition is the epitome of why my kids as adults do so well when other teenagers aren’t. They are completely prepared in themselves to deal with peer pressure, bullying, and drugs. Through self-discipline, they understand that actions have specific consequences. Our world fell apart when my oldest was fourteen and my youngest was eleven. We made the decision to continue homeschooling but with the oldest child running it because I had to make a living and going to college was the only way to make a future for us all. They had the discipline in themselves to continue with very little guidance. They are usually the game changers in whatever they do. They lead while others follow in their careers and at college at fifteen and up. When I say lead, I mean on a national level in their field, and at work. I can’t speak for all homeschoolers, only Williams’ Raiders. For us it helped better prepare them for real life.