The mindset of our time and civilization is characterized by the adult’s tendency to hide what is bad from his or her children. Another very dangerous tendency that characterizes our historical time is to try giving a good appearance to what is bad.
Today we believe that the fears and the superstitions that were part of the mindset of older civilizations were a result of their ignorance. We want to believe that nothing is really bad; closing our eyes before the dangers that threaten our happiness.
This attitude is very dangerous. We have to open our eyes and clearly see what is bad, so that we may avoid suffering. If we try to give a positive spin on what is bad, we will distort the truth. This distortion will provoke even worse distortions in the future. In then end, we will face despair.
In order to be a prudent parent, you have to show to your children the ugly truth as it is, without painting it with beautiful colors. If you fail to show them that there are bad consequences in life, they will become victims of other people’s bad intentions.
You have to pay attention especially to the effect that your own example has on your children’s personalities and lives. You are their hero. You have to be a positive role model in their lives because they imitate your behavior.
I translate dreams for the public when they need an instant dream interpretation. I also provide them with psychotherapy. In addition my clients send me their short autobiography along with their dreams. When I analyze it, I usually verify that their parents are irresponsible. Those who have psychological problems always have indifferent, absurd, and cold parents.
Many parents completely hide from their children the bad aspect of sexual relationships outside of marriage. Other parents never care about teaching their children that they should never accept having sexual relationships with married men or women. The consequences of this negligence are very bitter. Their children not only get involved in bad relationships, they accept immorality. They acquire grave mental illnesses because they have many traumatic experiences.
Parents that don’t teach their children that what is bad in life can only bring future catastrophes, are not preparing their children for successfully facing the various challenges of life. Worst still is their bad examples as role models in their children’s lives. When children have parents that don’t respect their family, they will have serious problems in their relationships as well.
You teach your children how they should react before the various difficulties of life with your own attitude and behavior. If you are not able to provide a good example, they will repeat your mistakes.
Write down your dreams in a dream journal and follow the unconscious guidance contained in the dream messages. You’ll learn how to be wise, and give the best live example to your children. They will therefore be very well prepared for successfully facing all life challenges.