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Why You Need Daily Affirmations and 5 Self-Love Statements to Get You Started

Everyone needs a little confidence boost from time to time, and daily affirmations are just the way to get one. They can reduce stress, increase focus, and help you achieve your goals and dreams; you can write your own affirmations to maximize your self-love benefits.

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What would you do with a bit more confidence? Finally write that novel? Pursue a modeling career? Start your own nonprofit? The sky is the limit! If you're looking to turn your hopes and dreams into a reality, consider adopting daily affirmations. Affirmation, or creating and repeating positive statements on a daily basis, has the potential to completely transform your thinking and your life. Clinical psychologist Dr. Carmen Harra writes that affirmations "help purify our thoughts and restructure the dynamic of our brains." Essentially, if you tell yourself often enough that anything is possible, you'll begin to believe it.

Daily affirmations? Is that even scientific?
If you're doubtful that positive thinking can transform your behavior with lasting impact, researchers may disagree. Stanford University found affirmations can have a dramatic impact on at-risk students. Over the course of a year, a selection of at-risk seventh graders in the racial minority completed simple, positive creative writing exercises that reduced the racial achievement gap by a whopping 30 percent.

If you take the time to repeat positive thoughts on a daily basis, your subconscious mind remembers. That's not to say you won't ever have moments of self-doubt or frustration. But recurring positive memories of regular affirmation can lead to increased confidence and bolder decision making. It's important to note that daily affirmations are not a substitute for physical or mental health care from a qualified, licensed professional. They're simply a powerful tool for boosting confidence and reducing stress.

What does a daily affirmation look like?
Individual affirmations can vary from general to incredibly specific, but they typically have a few things in common: they're in first person; they're present-tense; and they're positive. For example, if you aspire to quit smoking, you'd refer to this achievement in first person present tense and in a positive way. You might state, "I feel energetic and lively when I make healthy choices for myself." Statements like this one both affirm your goal and your ability to achieve it.

Dr. Ronald Alexander of Psychology Today recommends creating your own list of affirmations through a discovery exercise of your own fears and doubts. Your "trouble spots" could include fears about your fashion sense, body type, or social abilities. Alexander additionally recommends that daily affirmation beginners use a thesaurus to find the most powerful language possible. Wouldn't you rather tell yourself you're "drop-dead gorgeous and a timeless beauty" than just "pretty"?

How to Make Self-Affirmation a Way of Life
Creating new habits is always hard, but your affirmations aren't going to be very helpful if you abandon them as soon as you start. Daily affirmations should be just that—daily. I recommend that you make a 30-day commitment to sticking with your affirmations. Set an alarm on your phone during the day, or take a moment after you brush your teeth at night—whatever works for you. After 30 days, daily affirmation will feel like a normal and positive part of your day. Over time, your affirmations may shift, and that's okay. Author Melissa Van Rossum writes that the real benefit of daily affirmation is focusing your goals.

A Few Parting Affirmations
While developing affirmations is a highly individual activity, it can be difficult to get started on your own. Here are a few samples to get you started. Remember that each of the following is true:

  1. I am a beautiful, healthy, and divine person inside and out.
  2. I have balanced relationships built on respect and trust.
  3. I am satisfied with my career and recognized for my achievements.
  4. I can accomplish each of my goals because I am qualified, talented, and worthy.
  5. I deserve all the best things from life, and I accept all my opportunities.
Jasmine Gordon

Jasmine Gordon is a freelance writer who lives in the gorgeous rain forest of NW Washington state. Her writing on love, relationships and technology has appeared on XoJane, Time.com, and elsewhere.

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