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This Breakup Retreat Is The Perfect Solution To Any Split

by Hannah Marsh

This Breakup Retreat Is The Perfect Solution To Any Split

After going through her own breakup several years ago, blogger and columnist Amy Chan began a breakup boot camp to help others learn to better cope with the tough emotions associated with a split.

If you’ve ever been through a breakup, you know that the hardest time isn’t necessarily the split itself, but the several months following where you have to get used to being single again. A lot of times you lose not only your partner, but your best friend, and while it’s definitely a time to learn and grow from, it can be hard to know where to start.

That’s where Amy Chan’s Renew breakup boot camp comes in.


Five years ago I went through a breakup that completely knocked me off my feet. I would have never imagined during that time of darkness that one day I would be in New York, living my dream and creating a concept that helps people heal their hearts. I look back with such gratitude – what at the time seemed like the worst thing to have ever happened to me, ended up being the catalyst for me to grow, evolve and pursue a dream life I never dared to imagine. My heart is so full after this weekend, hosting my first ever RENEW retreat. It was so fulfilling to curate healing facilitators in a safe space to help women move forward from unhealthy, subconscious patterns of the past. Yesterday I cried tears of joy, so full of gratitude for all the people who supported me during my journey. To those of you who have believed in me, who’ve rooted for me, who’ve helped spread the word, liked one of my posts, who’ve sent me positive vibes… thank you. I would have not been able to do this without you. And if you know someone who is going through a hard time, I encourage you, reach out, show support and let them know they’re safe and loved. Matters of the heart can be extremely challenging, and the smallest act of kindness can go so far. We’re all in this together. If you’ve got love to give, share it. There might be someone right now who needs it more than ever.

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Upon arrival of this multi-day retreat in New York’s Hudson Valley, you’ll completely unplug by checking in any digital devices. Over the course of the next few days, you’ll spend time with 10 other people, listening to group talks on topics like attachment theory and the psychology behind why we feel and behave the ways that we do when we grieve.

Chan also includes plenty of physical exercise to boost endorphins, one-on-one life coaching, and journaling assignments each night. Renew prides itself on combining the science of love and breakups with spirituality to teach how to cope and turn negative energy into positive.

It certainly sounds better than ice cream and wine binges.

“What really has helped me through my own breakups has been learning tools to self-soothe, reframe, and forgive, and how to channel negative energy into positive,” Chan told Glamour in an interview.

“Resilience is a muscle. Learning how to cope and process painful emotions is a muscle. And I’ve been through enough ups and downs to know that you have a choice. You can use breakups, which are pivotal points in life, as a catalyst for growth, or you can choose to have it make you jaded and more fear-based.”


Fresh eggs from the chicken coup. #renewbreakupbootcamp #hudsonvalley

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There’s no denying that breakups are rough, and Renew sounds like a fantastic place for people to learn how to better cope with their present situation.

If you’re going through a tough time right now, Chan encouraged readers in the Glamour interview, saying, “Be kind and gentle on yourself. In this fast-paced world, we are so hard on ourselves and impatient with healing. Unfortunately, there is nothing you can do to speed up the process.”

“If you don’t allow yourself to process the emotion in a healthy way, the pain and darkness just gets buried deep inside you, and eventually comes up in your future relationships. Stop blaming yourself, and instead try to look for the lesson and the growth opportunity.”

Hopefully we’re happy in our current relatinoships, and we don’t need the retreat. But TBH, we still kind of want to go anyway.