You want to expose children to the potty on a regular basis over the long run not rush them—all children really need is to see you, their siblings, or peers using the bathroom. Most likely, they will find joy in trying to go potty. Isn’t that the method you’d prefer as opposed to forcing a developmental process that they have no or little control over?
Have you ever met an adult who was not potty trained? I haven’t. Don’t worry that if you take a laid-back approach that you’ll still be changing diapers in elementary school.
Bladder control is a physiological function and not something that can be controlled with behavioral remedies.
Rewarding children with stickers, charts, and toys doesn’t speed up the process. The more firm/or hands-on you are with your child, the more control issues may arise. Potty battles are disruptive to good parent-child relationship.
You didn’t reward your child for walking for the first time, so why would you reward them for bladder control?
It takes the average child at least twelve months to master this task. Girls typically begin to use the potty at two and a half and boys around their third birthday.
When your child turns fifteen months, you can buy a cute potty and/or potty-top seat. Bring it outside during the warmer months and let you child play diaperless. Children need to see where their pee pee comes from. If they are in a diaper, it’s hard for them to make the connection. Even if they pee in the bush or on the grass, you can say, “There’s your pee, cool.” Don’t get too excited; just be matter-of-fact.
Children tend to potty on their own when they are in a supportive, non-controlling environment. Children who attend preschool tend to potty train earlier because they get to see their peers use the bathroom. Modeling and exposing your child to the elements of using the potty is all you need to do. Relax and enjoy your child, because tomorrow they will be going off to college and you’ll kick yourself for not savoring all the wonderful stages.
There is no specific age that is considered optimal for training. However, if your child is not using the potty by age four, consult with your pediatrician.