Pregnant with Twins
I had my tubes reversed after thirteen years to have a child with my second husband of seven years. I do have 2 children from previous marriage: an eighteen-year-old daughter and sixteen-year-old son. They are excited about the twins. Yes, I said twins. I am four months pregnant. My husband’s grandmother had a total of fourteen children and out of those fourteen, there were two sets of identical twins and out of one set of twins was my husband’s mother. One of his other aunts had a set of twins. There have not been twins in his family in forty years and eighty years in my family. And the crazy thing is that none of his cousins or siblings have had twins.
So we thought there was a low chance of having twins. We never dreamed there would be two. We are very excited and scared. I was fortunate that when I did the birth defects screening, they said that all looks normal and I had a very low chance of having children with a birth defect, but it is not 100 percent. With my previous pregnancies, my daughter weighed 7 pounds, 13 ounces, and my son weighed 9 pounds, 12 ounces, and I hear the more children you have, the bigger the babies. So now I am scared that the twins are going to be bigger. There was only two and a half years’ difference between the first two and this is going to be a sixteen-year difference. I am wondering if this is true.
My job requires me to travel quite a bit and I need to tell my doctor that I need to stop. I just came off a seven-week road trip with being home maybe two days out of the week, and I have to pay for everything up front and don’t get reimbursed right away. I would love to quit, and the company that I work for doesn’t pay for maternity leave. My company is in New York and the state of New York actually pays the women on maternity leave through a disability act there in New York. I do not qualify because I don’t live there. Needless to say, I am not happy anymore with the job.
I was dishonest to my husband about our money and that I had debt that he didn’t know about. I told him over the weekend and I am now in very deep depression. Not sure what I am going to do. At first he told me I had to come up with the money in a week or he was going to leave. I still believe he is going to leave. I’m not sure.