Screaming Children While Shopping
Dread the thought of having to take your children shopping with you? Don’t want to hear the screaming, crying, and tantrums? I don’t think children really enjoy the screaming, crying, and tantrums either … do you?
One day I was in Walmart, and this woman and her child were walking toward me. As they got closer, I heard the mother cursing at the four-year-old. I looked at the woman, and I could not help it—it just came out. I told her that she didn’t have to talk to the little girl like that. She told me to mind my own business. I felt that someone had to be an advocate for that poor little girl. See, we don’t have to get children to listen in a negative way. I know how it feels to be treated like that out in public, and it is very belittling and mentally breaks children down.
Want to have your child behave in public? Try this: before leaving the house, talk with your child and let them know what is expected of their behavior while being out.
“Mark, we’re going to Target, and while we’re there I expect you to be on your best behavior. No crying, screaming, asking for toys, or tantrums. If your behavior is acceptable, we will go out to eat (at whatever place you want to treat the child). Now, if your behavior is unacceptable, then we will go straight home and the consequence will be (whatever the consequence is).”
When children know beforehand what you expect, and what you want, they have a chance to make choices of what their behavior is going to be. They want to please us.
Once you’re in the parking lot, before getting out of the car, turn around, and in a nice tone go over the expectations.
Be patient. If your child is tired, hungry, on medication, or ill, then this is not a good time to be expecting them to have good behavior. You’re just not going to get it. You shouldn’t expect it either—I mean, how is our behavior when we feel that way?
When your child has an acceptable behavior, don’t feel that you have to reward them every single time with a toy or treat. Just letting them know how proud you are of them and giving a high-five is just as good—they like that too! This way, they will not expect something for doing what they are suppose to being doing.
Children just want to be loved. We can do it with positive discipline. If you think about it, from infancy on up, children do not know how to act or react. That’s where parenting comes in. That’s how they learn. So if you want a child to grow up with a behavior of yelling, impatience, and treating you with disrespect, then continue to yell, be impatient, hit, and curse as they grow into a teen. But if you want a teenager that will listen to what you are saying, cares about how you feel, and is respectful, then bring them up with patience, love, and show them how to love their children.
Bringing children up in a positive way.