When it comes to pregnancy, do you find that everyone (and I mean everyone) has an opinion? An opinion and usually a story! You’d think those around you would want to encourage you, cheer you on, and tell you good things, right? Not!
For some reason, people love to talk freely about their negative experiences. During my pregnancy, I heard a lot about miscarriages. Did that help me? No! In fact, it freaked me out and made me really anxious (especially after I had one myself!). Trust me, I did a lot of checking and re-checking my underwear to make sure that everything was okay. Sound familiar?
If you want to have a happy pregnancy, the secret is to take everything everyone says with a grain of salt! Here’s what one of my subscribers had to say about listening to other people:
Thank you so very much for all the great advice you give to all us pregnant ladies out here in cyber world. Today’s newsletter is especially encouraging because I have a mother (yes, my own mother!) who is driving me up the wall at the moment. Every time I see her, she comments on how “fat” I am getting. Even though the majority of the weight I have gained is that of my baby. Admittedly I am HUGE for 30 weeks, but her negativity about my weight has been really getting me down.
I have come to realize that it’s all just words and that I should not let it affect me the way it has in the past couple of weeks. I am fine now and loving every minute of my pregnancy. My baby is healthy and so am I.
Once again, thank you for all the great advice.
Cape Town, South Africa
So filter through what you hear—pick and choose! And do take charge of what other people share with you. You can’t control other people, but you can control what you hear! So if someone starts sharing their horror story with you, say “Thank you, but no thank you!”—or just walk away.
Now, that doesn’t mean that we can’t sympathize with people who have had challenges—absolutely not. What it does mean is, limit what you hear. People get “stuck” on negatives and love to share (or should I say scare!)—don’t be a victim! Take care of yourself and surround yourself with positive and supportive people.
Angela, a mom from one of my pregnancy surveys, said, “The secret to a healthy pregnancy is to enjoy every single moment and appreciate the miracle of your body. Most people will want to share the negatives of pregnancy with you—DON’T listen to them! Pregnancy is truly an awesome experience and we’re privileged to have the honor. Celebrate your body and relax your mind. (Babies pick up on stress!)”
I couldn’t agree with her more! Let’s turn your pregnancy into a positive experience. Filter, filter, and filter.