Ellen Degeneres is going to be a judge on American Idol! 

I loved her role as “Dory” in Finding Nemo. Her voice gave life to the little fish that had short-term memory issues and through out the movie her motto was “Just Keep Swimming.” I use that line a great deal of the time when I find I need to call in courage or fortitude. Thinking back to our knee deep time in the trying to conceive part of our my marriage I so needed some quick way of staying connected to that courageous part of myself. I often used mantras and affirmations to push me through the fear and uncertainty.

But wasn’t until I saw the movie that I incorporated “Just keep swimming” as one of my favorites. The other gift that Ellen Degeneres’ Dory gave me was that gift of childlike wonder and joy. Looking back now the joyfulness of life seemed to be run over and smashed to a pancake during the TTC phase. 

So for this posting I would like to ask you to do some homework.

It’s simple, you just need to be open and aware and ask yourself a questions:

How do you stay connected to your courage or fortitude?

Dr. Robert Kiltz of CNY Fertility and Healing Arts Center is frequently heard saying, “we’re just going to keep at it” a sentiment that is echo through “Just keep swimming.”

For me I would say, “I’m going to keep praying until something happens” And making sure I put the “correct something” out into the universe. By this I mean making sure I held the positive thoughts of being a mom and released the fear of “this cycle not working.”

Ralph Waldo Emerson said, “Patience and fortitude conquer all things.” The trick is to create a system of connecting or calling in these gifts. If you don’t have a practice of doing so you could begin by taking a moment in the morning, driving in the car or before your start your day by simply saying, “Patience and fortitude or courage please be with me today as I create our family.”

Remembering our words are more powerful than we know and just keep swimming!  

By Kristen Magnacca for FertilityTies.com