What Is the Role of the Father?
Certain fathers’ groups are trying their hardest to make fathers important. I am beginning to wonder if this is maternal envy.
I mean, babies are conceived in an act that requires man and woman; however, this act takes place inside the woman: the embryo/fetus matures inside the woman’s uterus, the baby is born from the woman’s vagina, the infant is nurtured from the woman’s breast, the infant recognizes its mother’s smell, voice, and face and patterns that were detected in utero; where does this leave the man?
Children need their mommies. This is by design. Call it God. Call it evolution. Call it magic. It doesn’t matter. We know this.
- The APA knows it, read, “Without a secure motherly attachment, children’s bodies activate a stress reaction.”
- Science knows it, read “Scientific Proof of the Benefits of Mother-Child Bonding.
- “Removing a child from his/her mother” is child abuse, in its most natural, most simple state.
Maternal Deprivation Abuse
Maternal Deprivation, or Motherlessness, is occurring with alarming frequency due to the unethical treatment of women and children in family court. Maternal Deprivation is inflicting abuse by severing the mother-child bond. It is a form of abuse that men inflict on both the mother and children, especially men who claim they are “parentally alienated” from their children when there are complaints of abusive treatment by the father.
Maternal Deprivation occurs when men seek to keep their children from being raised by their mothers who are the children’s natural caretakers. Some men murder the mothers of their own children. Others seek to sever the maternal bonds by making false allegations of fictitious psychological syndromes in a deliberate effort to change custody and/or keep the child from having contact with their mother when there are legal proceedings. A twisted form of Maternal Deprivation is to kill the children, so that the mother will be left to suffer. Sometimes there are family annihilation murders where the father kills the children and himself (or dies by cop), but the mother is not killed because she has received protective orders and her children have not as in the case of Jessica Gonzales.
In that I am not a man, I can never know how it feels to be the “other” parent. When couples split, men often forget the relationship they once nurtured and contributed to, and proceed to force themselves to be half of their children’s lives via the family court system. But, I think I now know the role of the father: to Protect the Mother-Child Relationship. I hope that some fathers will realize this, too.