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Searching for Your True Calling? Look for Your Aliveness

Last week I had a coaching session with Susan (not her real name) who was eager to answer the “what’s next” question and to make some key decisions. 

Susan was grappling with a myriad of questions: should she move to a new city, what city should she move to, should she go back to school, should she get an undergraduate degree, should she get a certification vs. a degree, should she take classes for enjoyment only.

Susan was feeling frustrated, stuck, and overwhelmed because she was wanting to make changes in many different areas of her life and didn’t know what to focus on first. Change—both those we choose and those that get thrust on us—often comes in twos and threes. I believe it’s the “when it rains it pours” phenomenon.

Take a moment to think back to your own life. Do you remember having your first child at the same time that you moved into a new home, or you got married, moved to a new city, and started a new job?

But what do you do when you find yourself, like Susan, wanting to make multiple changes and are getting overwhelmed by what seems like too many multiple choice answers?

Get still, clear your head of your mind chatter, sink into your body, and ask yourself these three simple questions:

“What brings me alive?”

“What matters most to me in my life right now?”

“Where do you tap into the power of your crazy love?”

During our coaching session, I sensed Susan squirming on the other end of the phone as we moved into the home zone of these questions. There is so much truth and information here, yet Susan wanted to just “get serious” about finding what she was meant to do next and to tie things up neatly in a box.

The Universe works best for us when we move from our brains down into our hearts. Take moment to look at what makes you alive and gives you that tingle of excitement and feeling of crazy love. What makes you alive and what you love has pure, power-packed energy, and that energy will propel you into new experiences, insights, and expression.

For me the answers are:

  1. my husband, daughter, and dog
  2. Nature in all Her variety and glory
  3. communicating by speaking, teaching, writing

So how about you? How would you answer these three questions? For you it might be beauty, a crisp morning after a snowfall, being with your children, or playing or listening to music.

Anything or anyone that does not bring you alive is too small for you.
David Whyte